(04-26-2023 08:54 PM)bullet Wrote: (04-26-2023 06:26 PM)UCGrad1992 Wrote: (02-18-2023 04:51 PM)CrimsonPhantom Wrote: Quote:Former President Jimmy Carter will be receiving home hospice care, according to a statement from The Carter Center on Saturday afternoon. It read:
After a series of short hospital stays, former U.S. President Jimmy Carter today decided to spend his remaining time at home with his family and receive hospice care instead of additional medical intervention, He has the full support of his family and his medical team. The Carter family asks for privacy during this time and is grateful for the concern shown by his many admirers.
He and his wife Rosalynn, 95, have been married for 76 years, and their last public appearance was in August in Georgia for a Friends of the Carter’s event, according to WMAZ.
So, a couple of things...
As a conservative, I have been a critic of Jimmy over the years but at this time I will stand down and focus on the man and not the former DEM POTUS.
The Hospice care at home is something that I can relate to...my wife and I decided after she was deemed terminal from her cancer battle that we would request Hospice in our home so that she could be surrounded 24/7 by family and friends. I have a ton of respect for Hospice and would strongly recommend them to anyone if that is a viable option. Having your dying loved one at home is an incredible opportunity to say goodbye and to love on them until their final breaths.
76 years of marriage..SEVENTY SIX YEARS! I can only take my hat off in respect to that. I was proud to be married nearly 23 years but 76 is beyond my comprehension. Especially in this day and age with traditional marriage under constant attack from the world's naysayers.
Godspeed and prayers to you Mr. President...you've earned it Sir.
My sister spent her last couple of weeks in Hospice at home. My Father was in Hospice at a facility, but he had been in assisted living and was no longer in his own home. They were nice people.
I've done a bit more self revealing today than normal so why not a little more. I've been with well over 100 dying people. Many were in hospice, a lot were in hospital rooms. I've probably been with 3 dozen or so when they died. When I first started with that I found it a bit emotionally overwhelming at times. But that was because I was projecting my feelings into the situation instead of just being with the person.
Each one had the same outcome, but the experience of it was as unique as each person. The vast majority of them faced it with a sense of acceptance and peace and merely witnessing that was a gift of assurance to me. I don't embrace death, but neither am I afraid of it as I once was. It is natural, final, and any pain transferred is in the horrible sense of loss in the lives of those who loved them. Sharing that sense of loss with each other helps them to bridge the chasm which is left by the physical absence of one who is always in their minds and hearts. You can't replace them, but you can remember their love.
I've been with more than a few who saw loved ones coming for them, and no, they weren't on opiates or any other mind numbing medication. I won't relate the stories but they were profound.
One which did not see anyone coming for him was an old soldier who simply wouldn't die. I asked him what was troubling his mind. He wanted to know who would care for his wife. His children did as dutifully as he would have. The wife was frantic because she thought he was suffering. I asked her to give him permission to go home and to assure him that she would be fine. She knelt down and whispered it into his ear and he let go right then. Their bond was strong enough to keep him alive with a terminal illness well past when his body should have failed. Think 3 months. There was a collective relief and peace.
The most disturbing deaths were those who were afraid, and they were few. Family and friends really do make a difference, as does faith.
Families, all families, need visits and calls weeks and months after the funeral. In our society there is mind-numbing rush of the well wishers before and just after a funeral, and then when the gaps in our lives are most evident, nobody is coming around. This is what we can do as a society to help. Never inundate or impose, but simply taking somebody out to lunch a month or two afterward with no stated objective and being with them to talk about whatever they wish to talk about is usually a welcomed break. That can be about the loved one they lost, or the kids, or their job, or the ballgame. They'll pick the topic. You only need to be the friend. These are little bridges that get us each into the rest of our lives.
The people I've loved and lost are all still in my head and things they have said to me in the flesh still speak to me in times where I need to hear them. Only physical presence has been lost. And that is essentially what gives the dying peace. Their bodies are failing, not their minds or spirits. Energy never ceases to exist, it merely transforms. I see that as a God thing, but for some physicist friends of mine, they are comforted by the physical reality of it.
it's always a holy time, whether all realize it or not. Reverence for life in all of its stages is holy time. Who's to say which is the beginning and which is the end.
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[NEWS] Former President Jimmy Carter Enters Hospice Care at Home
