Yep.This ultimately falls on the children. If your father is 95 and your mother/stepmother is 67 and the ultimate caretaker then at bare minimum, you call every week, if not more to check up on them. I can’t imagine forgetting my elderly parents for a day

Quote:It is likely that Ms Arakawa died first on 11 February, Dr Heather Jarrell of the New Mexico Medical Investigator's Office, told a news conference on Friday.

She said it was "reasonable to conclude" that Hackman died on 18 February.

Ms Arakawa's last known movements and correspondence were on 11 February, when she was seen going to a grocery store, a CVS pharmacy and a pet store, before returning home in the early evening.

If hantavirus is this nasty virus that kills you would think a person wouldn't be out shopping just hours before they die from it. Or must not made her feel very sick because she never went to see a doctor....

symptoms are:

Fever and chills
Muscle aches or pain
Headache
Nausea
Stomach pain
Vomiting
Diarrhea

As the disease progresses, it can lead to damaged lung tissues, fluid build-up in the lungs, and serious problems with lung and heart function. Signs and symptoms may include:

Cough
Difficulty breathing
Low blood pressure
Irregular heart rate

(03-07-2025 10:46 PM)BigTigerMike Wrote:  Yep.This ultimately falls on the children. If your father is 95 and your mother/stepmother is 67 and the ultimate caretaker then at bare minimum, you call every week, if not more to check up on them. I can’t imagine forgetting my elderly parents for a day

While I see every ones point about staying in contact...

depending on the person 67 is not elderly. As for calling their father everyday I'm family sure the father didnt even know his children at his point. In my opinion I would think that would be painful and hard on his children.

I speak or see both my sons every day but some families are not like that. Especially when they move long distant away (dont know where their kids lived) and put off calling...

"ill do it tomorrow" and then its a couple weeks that went by. Then you have old people that dont like feeling like they are being checked up on.

Not one of us know the workings of this family so I'm not going to set here and judge them. Even if its 100% different than how I would go about it. But I do know when my grand mother (who helped raise me) my visits to the nursing home got longer and longer...from couple times a week to weekly and at the end every couple weeks. She did not know us at that point and honestly it upset her with family always telling her...

you remember this or remember that over and over

All we said is 16 days (or maybe much more) is a bit long for most kids to check on their elderly father who is 95. They could have at least been calling to talk to the wife.

Nothing wrong with us noticing that.

I never said anything was wrong with questioning it . I said I wont judge someone's timeline on calling their mother, but their father been gone for a while. Calling works both ways, the mother has a phone and did not call. Being close has many different meanings for everyone and even if the children called...


the end results was not changing

edit: do we really know if they called after the mother died? Maybe there's an article saying they hadn't, I don't know because I haven't followed it closely.

I don't care enough to research it, lol.

But apparently, Hackman was dead for 9 days, and Betsy was dead for 7 before that, so apparently nobody called for at least that long, or when they got no answer, they would have contacted the police. You would think.

That's all we're talking about. The evidence in front of us. Not their life long habit.