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(10-11-2017 12:38 PM)Lord Stanley Wrote:  Let's work hard to keep vitriol at a minimum in this thread, please.

This wasn't a stutter. Don't make me go Terry Tate around here.

Be respectful, and don't make it personal nor about the poster.
10-11-2017 01:44 PM
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(10-11-2017 01:43 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:41 PM)rath v2.0 Wrote:  JD is donning his latex gimp outfit in honor of the special day.

Ah yes, with comments like that, it appears as if you are coming out as an 'insult troll' today. Congrats to you.

naw.....what most are trying to point out is you need to somehow find a sense of comfort in humor.....

none of us really care about any of this bs......
10-11-2017 01:46 PM
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(10-11-2017 01:41 PM)rath v2.0 Wrote:  JD is donning his latex gimp outfit in honor of the special day.

I'll be having a nice dinner with friends after I get off from work. Just like every other normal, boring American does from time to time.
10-11-2017 01:47 PM
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(10-11-2017 01:43 PM)Hood-rich Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:25 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  Trust me, the closet is your enemy. If you try to stay in it, you have to basically disengage from all social interaction with all of your coworkers. And your career will be harmed as a result.

Based on the way you act here I would be surprised if anyone had questions about your sexuality.

Aside from internal team building events and the annual Christmas party, I choose to basically disengage from all social interaction with my coworkers. Occassionally, we go to lunch and talk about work or maybe hunting (I don't hunt so I don't contribute there). We certainly don't talk about sexual conquests. Unless you are married, I can't think of any way sexual preference could be appropriately inferred in small talk at work. My career has not been harmed in the slightest.
10-11-2017 01:48 PM
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(10-11-2017 01:43 PM)Hood-rich Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:25 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  Trust me, the closet is your enemy. If you try to stay in it, you have to basically disengage from all social interaction with all of your coworkers. And your career will be harmed as a result.

Based on the way you act here I would be surprised if anyone had questions about your sexuality.

You'd be surprised. Every once in a while I have to sit someone down and flat out tell them. That's usually when they ask why I'm not going out to their bar for the 4th time this week when we're on the road. Or, hey I went by your room last night at 10pm...where were you?

I actually prefer it if the gossip mill does the work for me. Then its not me coming out at work, but rather some other person running their mouth.
10-11-2017 01:48 PM
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(10-11-2017 01:48 PM)EverRespect Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:43 PM)Hood-rich Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:25 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  Trust me, the closet is your enemy. If you try to stay in it, you have to basically disengage from all social interaction with all of your coworkers. And your career will be harmed as a result.

Based on the way you act here I would be surprised if anyone had questions about your sexuality.

Aside from internal team building events and the annual Christmas party, I choose to basically disengage from all social interaction with my coworkers. Occassionally, we go to lunch and talk about work or maybe hunting (I don't hunt so I don't contribute there). We certainly don't talk about sexual conquests. Unless you are married, I can't think of any way sexual preference could be appropriately inferred in small talk at work. My career has not been harmed in the slightest.

Well that's not the world I live in. Informal networks, even for professionals are big in my industry as to how you get clients or new jobs or promotions. You have to play the game to a certain extent.
10-11-2017 01:49 PM
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(10-11-2017 01:49 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:48 PM)EverRespect Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:43 PM)Hood-rich Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:25 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  Trust me, the closet is your enemy. If you try to stay in it, you have to basically disengage from all social interaction with all of your coworkers. And your career will be harmed as a result.

Based on the way you act here I would be surprised if anyone had questions about your sexuality.

Aside from internal team building events and the annual Christmas party, I choose to basically disengage from all social interaction with my coworkers. Occassionally, we go to lunch and talk about work or maybe hunting (I don't hunt so I don't contribute there). We certainly don't talk about sexual conquests. Unless you are married, I can't think of any way sexual preference could be appropriately inferred in small talk at work. My career has not been harmed in the slightest.

Well that's not the world I live in. Informal networks, even for professionals are big in my industry as to how you get clients or new jobs or promotions. You have to play the game to a certain extent.

welcome to life.....that applies across the board if you have a brain......
10-11-2017 01:50 PM
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(10-11-2017 01:48 PM)EverRespect Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:43 PM)Hood-rich Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:25 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  Trust me, the closet is your enemy. If you try to stay in it, you have to basically disengage from all social interaction with all of your coworkers. And your career will be harmed as a result.

Based on the way you act here I would be surprised if anyone had questions about your sexuality.

Aside from internal team building events and the annual Christmas party, I choose to basically disengage from all social interaction with my coworkers. Occassionally, we go to lunch and talk about work or maybe hunting (I don't hunt so I don't contribute there). We certainly don't talk about sexual conquests. Unless you are married, I can't think of any way sexual preference could be appropriately inferred in small talk at work. My career has not been harmed in the slightest.

#eversmart
10-11-2017 01:52 PM
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(10-11-2017 01:48 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:43 PM)Hood-rich Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:25 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  Trust me, the closet is your enemy. If you try to stay in it, you have to basically disengage from all social interaction with all of your coworkers. And your career will be harmed as a result.

Based on the way you act here I would be surprised if anyone had questions about your sexuality.

You'd be surprised. Every once in a while I have to sit someone down and flat out tell them. That's usually when they ask why I'm not going out to their bar for the 4th time this week when we're on the road. Or, hey I went by your room last night at 10pm...where were you?

I actually prefer it if the gossip mill does the work for me. Then its not me coming out at work, but rather some other person running their mouth.

well, where were you at 10pm?
10-11-2017 01:55 PM
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(10-11-2017 01:39 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:37 PM)oliveandblue Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:12 PM)Tom in Lazybrook Wrote:  
(10-11-2017 01:01 PM)bullet Wrote:  Come out to friends and family. Keep it out of the workplace. Your sexual life is no business of your employer or of the government.

Uh, that's not the point. Do your coworkers know if you're married? How about if you went on a date with a female?

He's not talking about saying "my husband and I went to our family reunion this weekend". His point is clear.

Actually, if you say that even once at work, then everyone will know. People gossip.

The only way to not be out at work is to not have any personal friendship with anyone in your office and to lie in any social interaction with coworkers.

Actually, saying 'my husband and I went to our family reunion this weekend' is coming out at work.

As Olive said, my point was pretty clear. You don't avoid it, but you don't shove it in people's faces either. Its not their business. It should be irrelevant.
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