CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

Thanks GT...you know me, I'm not always thinking.....

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

Thanks GT...you know me, I'm not always thinking.....

Whatever. You should post an apology to the man and his son.

Sorry to the whole family...

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

Thanks GT...you know me, I'm not always thinking.....

Whatever. You should post an apology to the man and his son.

Forget that. Let it sit for all to see.

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I agree. He made the decision to forgo his other opportunities to go to the Academy. What his options are now is unknown at this point. He had the chance to play basketball at three or four places and had a couple of academic scholarship offers that weren't accepted in time so those are gone. I expect that his options are limited now.
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Well, you could share my experience.
My son decides not to play / accept scholarship. Wants to go to an SEC school. Goes. Tells the frat boys to stuff it. Comes back to the U of M at the break to go to basketball games because he can't believe the Tigers are this good when he leaves.
He sits with his old man at the games. I steal a special year with my son at an age when it doesn't happen often. The Tigers make a run.
Priceless year.
McLelland is very good grabbing lottery money at the U of M.
Suggestion.

CyberTiger Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

Thanks GT...you know me, I'm not always thinking.....

Whatever. You should post an apology to the man and his son.

Sorry to the whole family...

Weak, but I understand that you don't get it.

MphsFan, there are not words to say enough how very sorry I am for this turn of events. That's all I'll say at this point.

May God bless and be with your son and all your family.

mphsfan Wrote:mphsfanson went to the Air Force Academy about 3 weeks ago. He has exercised his option to leave the Academy (and the "sure thing" future that goes with it) and return home.

I've had little communication with him, but from what I have learned he says that he made a mistake and doesn't what that lifestyle. Did homesickness and a girl enter into his decision? I suspect so. What's done is done. I have to help him move forward, if I let him live.

At least you didn't tell him he had to transfer to another school due to lack of playing time and him ending up in U of New Orleans.

Sorry to hear this! Have some faith in your son that he knows whats best for him! This might not be the path that you would have gone but he knows what is right for him! Stay strong!!!

mphsfan, how is the missus taking it?

BTW, I'm so sorry that he didn't realize this option was not what he wanted while his other options were still in play. Hopefully, he will look back on this decision with happiness rather than regret.

It's hard for me to comment on the situation. Just know that I hope it all works out for the best. I suspect that it will.

I just read this and can only repeat what some others have said: you can never tell how a decision will work out, even one you disagree with. Military scholarships are phenomenal to begin with, and the Air Force Academy might be best of all, but it must be right for the person. Adults must make their own decisions, though, and as parents we can only stand by and let them.

But that does not mean you can't whack him with a newspaper when nobody is looking.

missjtiger Wrote:All things happen for a reason......always remember that.

What exactly is that quote supposed to mean? Of course things happen for a reason... Bill got a DIU because he got drunk and then drove.

It's an even more trite quote when really bad things happen. Just tell Natalie Holloway's family that all things happen for a reason.

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

Thanks GT...you know me, I'm not always thinking.....

Whatever. You should post an apology to the man and his son.

So, you are implying that it is shameful or embarrassing to be gay?

salukiblue Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

Thanks GT...you know me, I'm not always thinking.....

Whatever. You should post an apology to the man and his son.

So, you are implying that it is shameful or embarrassing to be gay?

This type of message does not belong here. It's not germane to the true subject at hand.

Please , no more. Thanks.

tigertom Wrote:

salukiblue Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

Thanks GT...you know me, I'm not always thinking.....

Whatever. You should post an apology to the man and his son.

So, you are implying that it is shameful or embarrassing to be gay?

This type of message does not belong here. It's not germane to the true subject at hand.

Please , no more. Thanks.

This from someone who makes it sound like his kid was killed in a freak accident:

Quote:MphsFan, there are not words to say enough how very sorry I am for this turn of events. That's all I'll say at this point.

May God bless and be with your son and all your family.

salukiblue Wrote:

missjtiger Wrote:All things happen for a reason......always remember that.

What exactly is that quote supposed to mean? Of course things happen for a reason... Bill got a DIU because he got drunk and then drove.

It's an even more trite quote when really bad things happen. Just tell Natalie Holloway's family that all things happen for a reason.

I guess everyone has their own interpretation of what that means....for me it means that God has a plan for everyone and maybe it's just not in his plan for his son to take that road. If you think it's trite then that's your right. I know mphsfan and his son and I hope he knows that I did not mean for that to sound trite, as you call it.

salukiblue Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

Thanks GT...you know me, I'm not always thinking.....

Whatever. You should post an apology to the man and his son.

So, you are implying that it is shameful or embarrassing to be gay?

Not at all. I'm also not implying that it is shameful to be homesick, miss a girl or miss your parents. I'm implying that it was a very insensitive comment to someone who just wanted to vent. Anything else I can clear up for you?

I feel for you. I don't subscribe to the theory that 18-20 yo "knows what's best for them" but they have to make their own mistakes.
18-20 yo can't conceive that a few years of sacrifice (Sean Banks) will pay off for the balance of their life (I know I couldn't but it turned out ok).

From the time she started school, my oldest daughter told me she was going to be a Dr. She worked her azz off and has a full tuition scholly to a midwest school similar to Rhodes. Her freshman year she gets in a serious relationship and tells me for two years that she wants to start a family before she's too old so no medical school. They spent last term studying in Scotland together and when they got back, they broke up, so now she's interested in med school again, go figure!

All of that is to say all you can do is pick up the pieces and help him make the best decisions going forward and hope he's happy with his next choice. Best of Luck!

georgiatiger Wrote:

salukiblue Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:

georgiatiger Wrote:

CyberTiger Wrote:Those who copied my post, please delete your replies as I deleted my post. It was irresponsible of me...and I've been threatened, so please help a brother out.

I'll delete mine so I don't have to read it anymore. WTF were you thinking?

Thanks GT...you know me, I'm not always thinking.....

Whatever. You should post an apology to the man and his son.

So, you are implying that it is shameful or embarrassing to be gay?

Not at all, dumba$$. I'm also not implying that it is shameful to be homesick, miss a girl or miss your parents. I'm implying that it was a very insensitive comment to someone who just wanted to vent. Anything else I can clear up for you?

Sure, buddy. If this had been the quote

Quote:Maybe he was homesick, or misses a girl...or his daddy...

would you have wanted him post an apology to the man and his son?