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Sometimes we forget the private lives NTR
Sort of Tiger related because we all arrive at this point at some point in our lives.

We get caught up in sports and rivalries and differences and sometimes show lack of civility. It's good to stop everyone once in a while and remember that players and coaches and sports writers and commentators are people like everyone else and they have the same celebrations and losses as we do. It's hard losing your mom at any age.

From The Memphian by G Calkins

Before Mom became a prison doctor, she worked at the local psychiatric hospital. She wasn’t your ordinary doctor. She used to take her two white standard poodles on rounds with her. The administrators didn’t love it, but the patients sure did.

One day, Mom learned that one of her elderly patients couldn’t be discharged to live on his own. Hospital administrators had discovered that the patient did not have a bed in his new place. The rules said a patient could not be discharged into a home without a bed. So Mom borrowed a truck from the landscaper, backed it up to the hospital, loaded an old bed that she found in the hospital basement, and delivered it to the elderly man’s apartment. The patient was quickly — and happily — discharged.

That was Mom. She had an endless supply of what Dad liked to call “get up and go.” She was one of the early woman physicians in this country and the mother of nine children. She presided over an astonishing menagerie through the years — one that changed to fit her children’s interests — which included Arabian horses, standard poodles, Dorset sheep, chickens, ducks, guinea pigs, cockatiels, a monkey, a raccoon and a tortoise named Happy.

Calkins: How did my 96-year-old mother celebrate her vaccination? She went to Disney, of course

Last Monday, I got a call that Mom might not make it to the weekend. So after my radio show, I drove 14 hours to Buffalo. But there she was, sitting at her usual spot at the kitchen table. We watched the movie Seabiscuit; That was the last time we were able to get Mom out of bed.

“Last Monday, I got a call that Mom might not make it to the weekend. So after my radio show, I drove 14 hours to Buffalo. But there she was, sitting at her usual spot at the kitchen table. We watched the movie ‘Seabiscuit.’ That was the last time we were able to get Mom out of bed.” (Calkins Family photo)

So it’s almost impossible to believe that she’s gone. I had already planned to go back to Buffalo, New York, this past weekend to celebrate her birthday on Friday, Oct. 8. The cards and cakes had started to flood into the red brick farmhouse where I grew up. But shortly after midnight, Mom took her leave. Maybe five minutes into her birthday. She must have decided that 97 years was enough.

So I hope you’ll indulge me writing about her one last time. As I’ve mentioned before, she’s the reason I have this gig. When I was hospitalized with leukemia in the third grade, she would lug a big typewriter into my hospital room and type up stories as I dictated. They weren’t particularly good stories. I remember one about a saber-toothed tiger and a boy named “Little Bear.” But that’s when I first began to think of myself as a writer.

Later, when I took an ill-advised detour into the legal profession, Mom sent me a letter — I still have it — that said: “I think it’s great to try something besides law which I consider a profession of trouble makers. Why don’t you go to journalism school?”

Mom didn’t care much about money or prestige. She liked people. She particularly liked supporting people. She loved to tell a story — it was almost certainly apocryphal — about a little girl who came home from school one day and announced she was in the school play. No, the little girl wasn’t a princess or a knight or even a tree. “I’m a clapper,” said the girl.

Mom was a helluva clapper. In addition to raising nine kids of her own, she hosted three international exchange students for a full year. She served as president of the local school board. When family friends were killed in a car accident one tragic Easter weekend, she took in their three children until school was out.

Mom fixed hamburger casseroles for the Night People. She trucked our sheep and donkeys to local churches for their Christmas pageants. She once met a man in a nursing home who had a bird feeder outside his window but nobody to refill it. She returned to fill the bird feeder herself, every single week.

My sister Lucy tells the story about the time she joined Mom at the psychiatric hospital, back when Lucy was in middle school. They stopped to see a teenage patient who was catatonic, just staring straight ahead. So Mom started chatting cheerfully, asking the patient if she wanted something, maybe a soda? The patient kept staring straight ahead.

“OK, would you prefer a Coke or an orange Crush?” asked Mom, undeterred by the silence. “An orange Crush, yes?”

Mom gave Lucy a few quarters and told her to go get the patient an orange Crush from the vending machine.

Later, on the drive home, Mom asked Lucy if the patient drank the soda. Lucy reached into her pocked, pulled out the quarters, and said the vending machine was out.

“You mean, she’s still waiting for her soda?” Mom said.

She turned the car around, stopped at a convenience store and delivered the promised orange Crush.

Mom boosted people who needed boosting. It was as simple as that. If she could help someone, she would help someone. And not let much stand in her way.

“Mom boosted people who needed boosting. It was as simple as that. If she could help someone, she would help someone. And not let much stand in her way.”

She was both generous and intimidating. One of my sisters once asked Mom if she was truly happy. “I don’t have time to think about it, I have to go feed the horses,” was her response.

Mom understood you have a better shot at happiness if you don’t spend too much time fretting about it, if you focus on people other than yourself. Do that, and you just might find joy in every day.

She loved tomato sandwiches with mayonnaise, summers in Michigan, Dick Francis mysteries and the good stiff drinks my father would make. She loved riding through the woods and fields on her horses (even in hunting season, when she would think she was taking real precautions by hollering out “Don’t shoot!”) and she loved sharing ice cream with her dogs. She would take those dogs everywhere, even to her children’s college graduations. Of course, poodles are smart dogs.

And then Mom got old. In a way that was hard to bear. She couldn’t make a pot of coffee or change her clothes. She couldn’t even turn herself over in bed. Us kids thought Mom would have bowed out a decade ago. Turns out she was way too tough for that. Mom was given pain pills every few hours to cope with devastating arthritis. But she would never complain, even after Dad died a year and a half ago. She would sit in her chair and read her mysteries. She would look out the kitchen window and watch the birds visit feeders that someone else had to fill.

Calkins: What happens when you take your 98- and 94-year-old parents to Disney? Magic, of course

Last Monday, I got a call that Mom might not make it to the weekend. So after my radio show, I drove 14 hours to Buffalo. But there she was, sitting at her usual spot at the kitchen table. We watched the movie “Seabiscuit.”

That was the last time we were able to get Mom out of bed. You may know how the final days can go. By the time the end came, it was a blessed relief. My sister Sally was quietly singing, “When the Roll Is Called Up Yonder” at the moment Mom took her leave.

My mother loved Memphis because Memphis is where her son found happiness. Isn’t that what every mother wants? She got The Commercial Appeal by mail for more than two decades. She could talk about Penny Hardaway and the Grizzlies and whatever new baby animals were born at the zoo.

On the drive back home Saturday, I stopped a couple of times and wrote Mom’s obituary. The funeral home always asks where memorial donations should be sent. Mom would just like you to go out of your way to be helpful to someone. Then share an ice cream with your dog.
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Calkins is a really good writer. I don’t always agree with his views, especially on politics, but he is a excellent wordsmith. Saw this article earlier, and thought it it was a very touching tribute to his mom. All of us would like to leave memories like those he has of his mom.
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(10-11-2021 01:00 PM)covingtontiger Wrote:  Calkins is a really good writer. I don’t always agree with his views, especially on politics, but he is a excellent wordsmith. Saw this article earlier, and thought it it was a very touching tribute to his mom. All of us would like to leave memories like those he has of his mom.

Indeed, indeed
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The man can write.
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I hope that doosh craps his pants at the most in-opportune time sometime in the near future, I dislike him so. But that guy can write. Probably the most talented columnist in the city in my lifetime, and I do wish him peace about his mother's death.

...And a pantload sometime soon, as he's sitting in a restaurant with 3 masks on his smarmy face.
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(10-12-2021 03:03 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  I hope that doosh craps his pants at the most in-opportune time sometime in the near future, I dislike him so. But that guy can write. Probably the most talented columnist in the city in my lifetime, and I do wish him peace about his mother's death.

...And a pantload sometime soon, as he's sitting in a restaurant with 3 masks on his smarmy face.

Bitter about something? Just curious.

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Calkins is a very gifted writer. I wish him well, and am jealous that I could not express my memories like that when my mom passed all those years ago.
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(10-12-2021 03:45 PM)bbqtiger Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:03 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  I hope that doosh craps his pants at the most in-opportune time sometime in the near future, I dislike him so. But that guy can write. Probably the most talented columnist in the city in my lifetime, and I do wish him peace about his mother's death.

...And a pantload sometime soon, as he's sitting in a restaurant with 3 masks on his smarmy face.

Bitter about something? Just curious.

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Assuming yours is a serious question, I will answer. I really mean it, the dude can write. He is excellent. But he thinks half the population (or more), including me, is utterly STUPID simply because we disagree with his point of view on a bunch of political issues I don't tune into sports-talk radio to hear about anyway. And his attitude about it is just so elitist, it is sickening. He refuses to take calls on his radio show about any of it, because he knows he can't portray us as "hayseeds" if we are actually allowed to speak and debate him.

But he did just lose his mom. I don't want him to be harmed in any way. I just want him to get a big-o pant-load, and have to walk like a penguin back to the bathroom and call home to his wife to bring him some fresh pants.
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(10-11-2021 12:31 PM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  Sort of Tiger related because we all arrive at this point at some point in our lives.

We get caught up in sports and rivalries and differences and sometimes show lack of civility. It's good to stop everyone once in a while and remember that players and coaches and sports writers and commentators are people like everyone else and they have the same celebrations and losses as we do. It's hard losing your mom at any age.

From The Memphian by G Calkins

Before Mom became a prison doctor, she worked at the local psychiatric hospital. She wasn’t your ordinary doctor. She used to take her two white standard poodles on rounds with her. The administrators didn’t love it, but the patients sure did.

One day, Mom learned that one of her elderly patients couldn’t be discharged to live on his own. Hospital administrators had discovered that the patient did not have a bed in his new place. The rules said a patient could not be discharged into a home without a bed. So Mom borrowed a truck from the landscaper, backed it up to the hospital, loaded an old bed that she found in the hospital basement, and delivered it to the elderly man’s apartment. The patient was quickly — and happily — discharged.

That was Mom. She had an endless supply of what Dad liked to call “get up and go.” She was one of the early woman physicians in this country and the mother of nine children. She presided over an astonishing menagerie through the years — one that changed to fit her children’s interests — which included Arabian horses, standard poodles, Dorset sheep, chickens, ducks, guinea pigs, cockatiels, a monkey, a raccoon and a tortoise named Happy.

Calkins: How did my 96-year-old mother celebrate her vaccination? She went to Disney, of course

Last Monday, I got a call that Mom might not make it to the weekend. So after my radio show, I drove 14 hours to Buffalo. But there she was, sitting at her usual spot at the kitchen table. We watched the movie Seabiscuit; That was the last time we were able to get Mom out of bed.

“Last Monday, I got a call that Mom might not make it to the weekend. So after my radio show, I drove 14 hours to Buffalo. But there she was, sitting at her usual spot at the kitchen table. We watched the movie ‘Seabiscuit.’ That was the last time we were able to get Mom out of bed.” (Calkins Family photo)

So it’s almost impossible to believe that she’s gone. I had already planned to go back to Buffalo, New York, this past weekend to celebrate her birthday on Friday, Oct. 8. The cards and cakes had started to flood into the red brick farmhouse where I grew up. But shortly after midnight, Mom took her leave. Maybe five minutes into her birthday. She must have decided that 97 years was enough.

So I hope you’ll indulge me writing about her one last time. As I’ve mentioned before, she’s the reason I have this gig. When I was hospitalized with leukemia in the third grade, she would lug a big typewriter into my hospital room and type up stories as I dictated. They weren’t particularly good stories. I remember one about a saber-toothed tiger and a boy named “Little Bear.” But that’s when I first began to think of myself as a writer.

Later, when I took an ill-advised detour into the legal profession, Mom sent me a letter — I still have it — that said: “I think it’s great to try something besides law which I consider a profession of trouble makers. Why don’t you go to journalism school?”

Mom didn’t care much about money or prestige. She liked people. She particularly liked supporting people. She loved to tell a story — it was almost certainly apocryphal — about a little girl who came home from school one day and announced she was in the school play. No, the little girl wasn’t a princess or a knight or even a tree. “I’m a clapper,” said the girl.

Mom was a helluva clapper. In addition to raising nine kids of her own, she hosted three international exchange students for a full year. She served as president of the local school board. When family friends were killed in a car accident one tragic Easter weekend, she took in their three children until school was out.

Mom fixed hamburger casseroles for the Night People. She trucked our sheep and donkeys to local churches for their Christmas pageants. She once met a man in a nursing home who had a bird feeder outside his window but nobody to refill it. She returned to fill the bird feeder herself, every single week.

My sister Lucy tells the story about the time she joined Mom at the psychiatric hospital, back when Lucy was in middle school. They stopped to see a teenage patient who was catatonic, just staring straight ahead. So Mom started chatting cheerfully, asking the patient if she wanted something, maybe a soda? The patient kept staring straight ahead.

“OK, would you prefer a Coke or an orange Crush?” asked Mom, undeterred by the silence. “An orange Crush, yes?”

Mom gave Lucy a few quarters and told her to go get the patient an orange Crush from the vending machine.

Later, on the drive home, Mom asked Lucy if the patient drank the soda. Lucy reached into her pocked, pulled out the quarters, and said the vending machine was out.

“You mean, she’s still waiting for her soda?” Mom said.

She turned the car around, stopped at a convenience store and delivered the promised orange Crush.

Mom boosted people who needed boosting. It was as simple as that. If she could help someone, she would help someone. And not let much stand in her way.

“Mom boosted people who needed boosting. It was as simple as that. If she could help someone, she would help someone. And not let much stand in her way.”

She was both generous and intimidating. One of my sisters once asked Mom if she was truly happy. “I don’t have time to think about it, I have to go feed the horses,” was her response.

Mom understood you have a better shot at happiness if you don’t spend too much time fretting about it, if you focus on people other than yourself. Do that, and you just might find joy in every day.

She loved tomato sandwiches with mayonnaise, summers in Michigan, Dick Francis mysteries and the good stiff drinks my father would make. She loved riding through the woods and fields on her horses (even in hunting season, when she would think she was taking real precautions by hollering out “Don’t shoot!”) and she loved sharing ice cream with her dogs. She would take those dogs everywhere, even to her children’s college graduations. Of course, poodles are smart dogs.

And then Mom got old. In a way that was hard to bear. She couldn’t make a pot of coffee or change her clothes. She couldn’t even turn herself over in bed. Us kids thought Mom would have bowed out a decade ago. Turns out she was way too tough for that. Mom was given pain pills every few hours to cope with devastating arthritis. But she would never complain, even after Dad died a year and a half ago. She would sit in her chair and read her mysteries. She would look out the kitchen window and watch the birds visit feeders that someone else had to fill.

Calkins: What happens when you take your 98- and 94-year-old parents to Disney? Magic, of course

Last Monday, I got a call that Mom might not make it to the weekend. So after my radio show, I drove 14 hours to Buffalo. But there she was, sitting at her usual spot at the kitchen table. We watched the movie “Seabiscuit.”

That was the last time we were able to get Mom out of bed. You may know how the final days can go. By the time the end came, it was a blessed relief. My sister Sally was quietly singing, “When the Roll Is Called Up Yonder” at the moment Mom took her leave.

My mother loved Memphis because Memphis is where her son found happiness. Isn’t that what every mother wants? She got The Commercial Appeal by mail for more than two decades. She could talk about Penny Hardaway and the Grizzlies and whatever new baby animals were born at the zoo.

On the drive back home Saturday, I stopped a couple of times and wrote Mom’s obituary. The funeral home always asks where memorial donations should be sent. Mom would just like you to go out of your way to be helpful to someone. Then share an ice cream with your dog.

Wow! That was powerful and moving.

Prayers for Jeff and his family. Certainly seems like he comes from good stock.
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(10-12-2021 03:51 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:45 PM)bbqtiger Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:03 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  I hope that doosh craps his pants at the most in-opportune time sometime in the near future, I dislike him so. But that guy can write. Probably the most talented columnist in the city in my lifetime, and I do wish him peace about his mother's death.

...And a pantload sometime soon, as he's sitting in a restaurant with 3 masks on his smarmy face.

Bitter about something? Just curious.

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Assuming yours is a serious question, I will answer. I really mean it, the dude can write. He is excellent. But he thinks half the population (or more), including me, is utterly STUPID simply because we disagree with his point of view on a bunch of political issues I don't tune into sports-talk radio to hear about anyway. And his attitude about it is just so elitist, it is sickening. He refuses to take calls on his radio show about any of it, because he knows he can't portray us as "hayseeds" if we are actually allowed to speak and debate him.

But he did just lose his mom. I don't want him to be harmed in any way. I just want him to get a big-o pant-load, and have to walk like a penguin back to the bathroom and call home to his wife to bring him some fresh pants.

So you don't tune into sports to hear about politics...

How you feel about the Biden chants? Does that bother you...If not you need more mirrors in your home.
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(10-12-2021 03:51 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:45 PM)bbqtiger Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:03 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  I hope that doosh craps his pants at the most in-opportune time sometime in the near future, I dislike him so. But that guy can write. Probably the most talented columnist in the city in my lifetime, and I do wish him peace about his mother's death.

...And a pantload sometime soon, as he's sitting in a restaurant with 3 masks on his smarmy face.

Bitter about something? Just curious.

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Assuming yours is a serious question, I will answer. I really mean it, the dude can write. He is excellent. But he thinks half the population (or more), including me, is utterly STUPID simply because we disagree with his point of view on a bunch of political issues I don't tune into sports-talk radio to hear about anyway. And his attitude about it is just so elitist, it is sickening. He refuses to take calls on his radio show about any of it, because he knows he can't portray us as "hayseeds" if we are actually allowed to speak and debate him.

But he did just lose his mom. I don't want him to be harmed in any way. I just want him to get a big-o pant-load, and have to walk like a penguin back to the bathroom and call home to his wife to bring him some fresh pants.

Besides disagreeing with your characterization it amazes me that you can write some so full of hatred. He actually is often very humble. He often admits what he doesn’t know and has discussions. I don’t see elitism, thinking the audience is stupid or hayseeds. He often talks about his failings and limitations.

Frankly, many shows don’t take calls now unless it’s something like 10 in a row. I will agree the quality of sports radio and all media has dropped.

Isn’t he divorced?

You take his profession much too serious. Just don’t read him or listen to him. Apparently listening to him is causing you great distress. It’s not healthy.
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Ike does not care for joey,
However he dislikes the derogatory chants about OUR PRESIDENT
How'd this appear on a tribute to a dude's Mom
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Losing our parents is losing that touchstone.

My father died relatively young of cancer and missed most of my full adult life as well as all of our children (he was a grandfather to my nieces and nephews). It was something that defined us and I missed him so much. Then when my mother died as a much older lady, there was a different sense of responsibility and caring.

And I still constantly tell myself that I will call her to get that answer to something from our past, our childhood or hers. These are personal and loving and natural and emotional.

I am unable to read any articles like this from anyone because it just hurts so much, but I admire the sentiment and can relate. Like most of you who share middle age with me (older middle age) we have lost our grandparents and often our parents aunts and uncles. Celebrating what made them loving matters. But damnit it never stops aching.
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(10-13-2021 09:07 PM)Mimi Wrote:  Losing our parents is losing that touchstone.

My father died relatively young of cancer and missed most of my full adult life as well as all of our children (he was a grandfather to my nieces and nephews). It was something that defined us and I missed him so much. Then when my mother died as a much older lady, there was a different sense of responsibility and caring.

And I still constantly tell myself that I will call her to get that answer to something from our past, our childhood or hers. These are personal and loving and natural and emotional.

I am unable to read any articles like this from anyone because it just hurts so much, but I admire the sentiment and can relate. Like most of you who share middle age with me (older middle age) we have lost our grandparents and often our parents aunts and uncles. Celebrating what made them loving matters. But damnit it never stops aching.

Memories hit at some of the strangest times and make it seem like the loss just occurred. Everyone processes loss in their own way.
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(10-13-2021 07:05 PM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:51 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:45 PM)bbqtiger Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:03 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  I hope that doosh craps his pants at the most in-opportune time sometime in the near future, I dislike him so. But that guy can write. Probably the most talented columnist in the city in my lifetime, and I do wish him peace about his mother's death.

...And a pantload sometime soon, as he's sitting in a restaurant with 3 masks on his smarmy face.

Bitter about something? Just curious.

04-cheers

Assuming yours is a serious question, I will answer. I really mean it, the dude can write. He is excellent. But he thinks half the population (or more), including me, is utterly STUPID simply because we disagree with his point of view on a bunch of political issues I don't tune into sports-talk radio to hear about anyway. And his attitude about it is just so elitist, it is sickening. He refuses to take calls on his radio show about any of it, because he knows he can't portray us as "hayseeds" if we are actually allowed to speak and debate him.

But he did just lose his mom. I don't want him to be harmed in any way. I just want him to get a big-o pant-load, and have to walk like a penguin back to the bathroom and call home to his wife to bring him some fresh pants.

Besides disagreeing with your characterization it amazes me that you can write some so full of hatred. He actually is often very humble. He often admits what he doesn’t know and has discussions. I don’t see elitism, thinking the audience is stupid or hayseeds. He often talks about his failings and limitations.

Frankly, many shows don’t take calls now unless it’s something like 10 in a row. I will agree the quality of sports radio and all media has dropped.

Isn’t he divorced?

You take his profession much too serious. Just don’t read him or listen to him. Apparently listening to him is causing you great distress. It’s not healthy.

I agree. Calkins is thoughtful, intelligent, and caring. Anyone who has an issue with him needs to look in the mirror
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RE: Sometimes we forget the private lives NTR
(10-14-2021 12:03 AM)hsvtiger Wrote:  
(10-13-2021 07:05 PM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:51 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:45 PM)bbqtiger Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:03 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  I hope that doosh craps his pants at the most in-opportune time sometime in the near future, I dislike him so. But that guy can write. Probably the most talented columnist in the city in my lifetime, and I do wish him peace about his mother's death.

...And a pantload sometime soon, as he's sitting in a restaurant with 3 masks on his smarmy face.

Bitter about something? Just curious.

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Assuming yours is a serious question, I will answer. I really mean it, the dude can write. He is excellent. But he thinks half the population (or more), including me, is utterly STUPID simply because we disagree with his point of view on a bunch of political issues I don't tune into sports-talk radio to hear about anyway. And his attitude about it is just so elitist, it is sickening. He refuses to take calls on his radio show about any of it, because he knows he can't portray us as "hayseeds" if we are actually allowed to speak and debate him.

But he did just lose his mom. I don't want him to be harmed in any way. I just want him to get a big-o pant-load, and have to walk like a penguin back to the bathroom and call home to his wife to bring him some fresh pants.

Besides disagreeing with your characterization it amazes me that you can write some so full of hatred. He actually is often very humble. He often admits what he doesn’t know and has discussions. I don’t see elitism, thinking the audience is stupid or hayseeds. He often talks about his failings and limitations.

Frankly, many shows don’t take calls now unless it’s something like 10 in a row. I will agree the quality of sports radio and all media has dropped.

Isn’t he divorced?

You take his profession much too serious. Just don’t read him or listen to him. Apparently listening to him is causing you great distress. It’s not healthy.

I agree. Calkins is thoughtful, intelligent, and caring. Anyone who has an issue with him needs to look in the mirror



The man is highly political and arrogant about his politics and views and very condescending to half the population that dares disagree with him.

Whether you want to admit that or not it is a plain fact.

People who take issue with him and his condescending words and views are fully justified.
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RE: Sometimes we forget the private lives NTR
(10-14-2021 12:37 AM)ericsrevenge76 Wrote:  
(10-14-2021 12:03 AM)hsvtiger Wrote:  
(10-13-2021 07:05 PM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:51 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:45 PM)bbqtiger Wrote:  Bitter about something? Just curious.

04-cheers

Assuming yours is a serious question, I will answer. I really mean it, the dude can write. He is excellent. But he thinks half the population (or more), including me, is utterly STUPID simply because we disagree with his point of view on a bunch of political issues I don't tune into sports-talk radio to hear about anyway. And his attitude about it is just so elitist, it is sickening. He refuses to take calls on his radio show about any of it, because he knows he can't portray us as "hayseeds" if we are actually allowed to speak and debate him.

But he did just lose his mom. I don't want him to be harmed in any way. I just want him to get a big-o pant-load, and have to walk like a penguin back to the bathroom and call home to his wife to bring him some fresh pants.

Besides disagreeing with your characterization it amazes me that you can write some so full of hatred. He actually is often very humble. He often admits what he doesn’t know and has discussions. I don’t see elitism, thinking the audience is stupid or hayseeds. He often talks about his failings and limitations.

Frankly, many shows don’t take calls now unless it’s something like 10 in a row. I will agree the quality of sports radio and all media has dropped.

Isn’t he divorced?

You take his profession much too serious. Just don’t read him or listen to him. Apparently listening to him is causing you great distress. It’s not healthy.

I agree. Calkins is thoughtful, intelligent, and caring. Anyone who has an issue with him needs to look in the mirror

The man is highly political and arrogant about his politics and views and very condescending to half the population that dares disagree with him.

Whether you want to admit that or not it is a plain fact.

People who take issue with him and his condescending words and views are fully justified.

When I read the politically charged, opinionated posts on this board it is full of people who are highly political, arrogant about their politics and range from condescending to angry, abusive, attack mongers who insert polarizing comments in threads constantly and at vastly inappropriate times. This thread is an example of that.

Instead of reading his article about his mother as an expression of love and loss, a beautifully written piece in my opinion, a few people chose to take the opportunity to attack the son and author and turn into the something ugly.

I foolish attempted to share something I thought should be something we can all identify with whether we liked or agreed with anything else he might be or say. Anonymous people hiding behind made up names feel entitled to lose their civil restraints. Plain facts? No, I think just plain opinions.
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RE: Sometimes we forget the private lives NTR
(10-14-2021 05:42 AM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  
(10-14-2021 12:37 AM)ericsrevenge76 Wrote:  
(10-14-2021 12:03 AM)hsvtiger Wrote:  
(10-13-2021 07:05 PM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  
(10-12-2021 03:51 PM)geosnooker2000 Wrote:  Assuming yours is a serious question, I will answer. I really mean it, the dude can write. He is excellent. But he thinks half the population (or more), including me, is utterly STUPID simply because we disagree with his point of view on a bunch of political issues I don't tune into sports-talk radio to hear about anyway. And his attitude about it is just so elitist, it is sickening. He refuses to take calls on his radio show about any of it, because he knows he can't portray us as "hayseeds" if we are actually allowed to speak and debate him.

But he did just lose his mom. I don't want him to be harmed in any way. I just want him to get a big-o pant-load, and have to walk like a penguin back to the bathroom and call home to his wife to bring him some fresh pants.

Besides disagreeing with your characterization it amazes me that you can write some so full of hatred. He actually is often very humble. He often admits what he doesn’t know and has discussions. I don’t see elitism, thinking the audience is stupid or hayseeds. He often talks about his failings and limitations.

Frankly, many shows don’t take calls now unless it’s something like 10 in a row. I will agree the quality of sports radio and all media has dropped.

Isn’t he divorced?

You take his profession much too serious. Just don’t read him or listen to him. Apparently listening to him is causing you great distress. It’s not healthy.

I agree. Calkins is thoughtful, intelligent, and caring. Anyone who has an issue with him needs to look in the mirror

The man is highly political and arrogant about his politics and views and very condescending to half the population that dares disagree with him.

Whether you want to admit that or not it is a plain fact.

People who take issue with him and his condescending words and views are fully justified.

When I read the politically charged, opinionated posts on this board it is full of people who are highly political, arrogant about their politics and range from condescending to angry, abusive, attack mongers who insert polarizing comments in threads constantly and at vastly inappropriate times. This thread is an example of that.

Instead of reading his article about his mother as an expression of love and loss, a beautifully written piece in my opinion, a few people chose to take the opportunity to attack the son and author and turn into the something ugly.

I foolish attempted to share something I thought should be something we can all identify with whether we liked or agreed with anything else he might be or say. Anonymous people hiding behind made up names feel entitled to lose their civil restraints. Plain facts? No, I think just plain opinions.



With all due respect you might want to turn down the drama queen act just a tad here. You put it on pretty thick with this one.

The man is very polarizing, highly political and very condescending in his articles and particularity on his program. There is nothing wrong with point that out. If he can dish it out at the level he likes to dish it out, he can take the incredibly tame comments made in this thread.

No one is saying anything negative about the unfortunate passing of his mother, and no one is celebrating that sad event.
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RE: Sometimes we forget the private lives NTR
(10-14-2021 05:57 AM)ericsrevenge76 Wrote:  
(10-14-2021 05:42 AM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  
(10-14-2021 12:37 AM)ericsrevenge76 Wrote:  
(10-14-2021 12:03 AM)hsvtiger Wrote:  
(10-13-2021 07:05 PM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  Besides disagreeing with your characterization it amazes me that you can write some so full of hatred. He actually is often very humble. He often admits what he doesn’t know and has discussions. I don’t see elitism, thinking the audience is stupid or hayseeds. He often talks about his failings and limitations.

Frankly, many shows don’t take calls now unless it’s something like 10 in a row. I will agree the quality of sports radio and all media has dropped.

Isn’t he divorced?

You take his profession much too serious. Just don’t read him or listen to him. Apparently listening to him is causing you great distress. It’s not healthy.

I agree. Calkins is thoughtful, intelligent, and caring. Anyone who has an issue with him needs to look in the mirror

The man is highly political and arrogant about his politics and views and very condescending to half the population that dares disagree with him.

Whether you want to admit that or not it is a plain fact.

People who take issue with him and his condescending words and views are fully justified.

When I read the politically charged, opinionated posts on this board it is full of people who are highly political, arrogant about their politics and range from condescending to angry, abusive, attack mongers who insert polarizing comments in threads constantly and at vastly inappropriate times. This thread is an example of that.

Instead of reading his article about his mother as an expression of love and loss, a beautifully written piece in my opinion, a few people chose to take the opportunity to attack the son and author and turn into the something ugly.

I foolish attempted to share something I thought should be something we can all identify with whether we liked or agreed with anything else he might be or say. Anonymous people hiding behind made up names feel entitled to lose their civil restraints. Plain facts? No, I think just plain opinions.



With all due respect you might want to turn down the drama queen act just a tad here. You put it on pretty thick with this one.

The man is very polarizing, highly political and very condescending in his articles and particularity on his program. There is nothing wrong with point that out. If he can dish it out at the level he likes to dish it out, he can take the incredibly tame comments made in this thread.

No one is saying anything negative about the unfortunate passing of his mother, and no one is celebrating that sad event.

I celebrate his mother’s passing. She served her community for 97 years. She tended to an element that many ignore. She was the embodiment of Jesus’s commandment to love thy neighbor. It’s always a time for celebration when the Lord calls his own home with a “Well done, good and faithful servant.”

I may not like the man’s politics, but God did bless him with a Saint for a mother for 97 years.

And I celebrate that.
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RE: Sometimes we forget the private lives NTR
(10-14-2021 05:57 AM)ericsrevenge76 Wrote:  
(10-14-2021 05:42 AM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  
(10-14-2021 12:37 AM)ericsrevenge76 Wrote:  
(10-14-2021 12:03 AM)hsvtiger Wrote:  
(10-13-2021 07:05 PM)Tigerx3 Wrote:  Besides disagreeing with your characterization it amazes me that you can write some so full of hatred. He actually is often very humble. He often admits what he doesn’t know and has discussions. I don’t see elitism, thinking the audience is stupid or hayseeds. He often talks about his failings and limitations.

Frankly, many shows don’t take calls now unless it’s something like 10 in a row. I will agree the quality of sports radio and all media has dropped.

Isn’t he divorced?

You take his profession much too serious. Just don’t read him or listen to him. Apparently listening to him is causing you great distress. It’s not healthy.

I agree. Calkins is thoughtful, intelligent, and caring. Anyone who has an issue with him needs to look in the mirror

The man is highly political and arrogant about his politics and views and very condescending to half the population that dares disagree with him.

Whether you want to admit that or not it is a plain fact.

People who take issue with him and his condescending words and views are fully justified.

When I read the politically charged, opinionated posts on this board it is full of people who are highly political, arrogant about their politics and range from condescending to angry, abusive, attack mongers who insert polarizing comments in threads constantly and at vastly inappropriate times. This thread is an example of that.

Instead of reading his article about his mother as an expression of love and loss, a beautifully written piece in my opinion, a few people chose to take the opportunity to attack the son and author and turn into the something ugly.

I foolish attempted to share something I thought should be something we can all identify with whether we liked or agreed with anything else he might be or say. Anonymous people hiding behind made up names feel entitled to lose their civil restraints. Plain facts? No, I think just plain opinions.



With all due respect you might want to turn down the drama queen act just a tad here. You put it on pretty thick with this one.

The man is very polarizing, highly political and very condescending in his articles and particularity on his program. There is nothing wrong with point that out. If he can dish it out at the level he likes to dish it out, he can take the incredibly tame comments made in this thread.

No one is saying anything negative about the unfortunate passing of his mother, and no one is celebrating that sad event.

What’s polarizing in this case is people high-jacking threads for their own self-serving purposes. It’s annoying to see it happen repeatedly.

And you repeating the same thing AGAIN, doesn’t change that fact. It’s a pattern. It’s a lack of discipline. It’s an inability to separate two things in in a man’s life. Adding, but nobody is celebrating his mother’s death makes high-jacking the thread in this way is ok! Adding he can take it? That’s on you guys.

If that’s being a drama queen so be it. All I tried to do was bring something good and decent to the board. Wonder why some can’t just let that stand? Don’t answer. I won’t return to this thread to read it.
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