Owl 69/70/75
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RE: Biden Mentally "Dead Pool"
(03-11-2021 09:41 PM)Fo Shizzle Wrote: (03-11-2021 09:21 PM)Owl 69/70/75 Wrote: (03-11-2021 09:03 PM)THE NC Herd Fan Wrote: Yes, doctors have told my stepmother, Never turn your back on a person with dementia cause eventually they will not recognize you and they may try to hurt you.
Fortunately or not, by the time my dad was into full-blown Alzheimer's, he was so stove up with Parkinson's that he couldn't hurt anyone if he tried. He had flown B-24s on the Ploesti raids, completed his missions, and was back home transitioning to B-26s for the invasion of Japan when Truman dropped the bomb, he came home and married my mom, and I came along a couple of years later. He never lost his love for flying, and he would take me up whenever he could get an airplane (never bought one, anything that flies, floats of f***s is cheaper to rent than buy).
Summer of 2001, my son and I were going to Australia for 6 weeks. In April, the docs told my mother and brother, "It may be 6 weeks or it may be 6 months, but he doesn't have long left." I told my mom that if it happened while we were in Australia, that wasn't a place that you just hopped on the next airplane home. So we worked out a deal where my mom would have a very private ceremony (which she wanted) while we were gone, and when we got back we would have a large memorial service (which my brother wanted). In preparation, my son and I flew back Memorial Day to see him, for what we both figured would be the last time. I had gotten used to his not knowing me by then, but this was the first time that he didn't recognize his grandson. That shook all of us up. Anyway, the next weekend I went to see the Pearl Harbor movie with Ben Affleck. There are some decent action scenes, but a really hokey love story. But the last scene, the war is over, Affleck is back in Tennessee with his war bride and war child, flying crop dusters again. They are on the front porch and there is a Stearman biplane parked out front. Affleck asks the kid, "You want go flying?" and the kid says, "Yes," and off they go. As they roll the credits, the Stearman is bobbing and weaving in and out. I stopped. That was my father and me in 1953. I called my mom the next day and said that I wasn't coming back. I couldn't get closure with that person lying in bed who didn't know me or my son, but I was able to get closure with a silly move scene. I just couldn't handle it.
4 days before my dad had a stroke that killed him...I was sitting with him during one of the few times where he was perfectly cogent and alert. I took that time to pull out his old Coast Guard album and asked him questions about the pictures. It was amazing that this man who several days earlier picked up a steak knife and tried to stab me suddenly was Dad again. We laughed and he told old stories about his time in Brownsville, Galveston and New Orleans during the Korean War. It was my closure with him and I am thankful that I had that night. That was the last time he was actually himself.
You are a very lucky man, my friend, to have had that experience. I wish I had had something like that, but it just wasn't to be. My father was a 2nd team all-state football player in HS, who was headed to West Point to play football, but they had him do a year of prep school first at a junior college in Georgia. Pearl Harbor came in December, so at the end of the spring semester he joined the Army Air Corps, got to Europe after we had taken the bottom half of Italy, and ended up flying B-24s out of the heel of the boot. After the war, he worked in various flying jobs for a while, until my uncle landed him a job with Allegheny. But my mother's father did not want his daughter away from home, so he bought the ranch next door and gave it to them to keep them living there. So my dad ended up having three jobs in his whole life--football player, airplane pilot, and cowboy--the three things we wanted to be when we were 10 years old playing in the back yard. He never really had to grow up, and he never stopped having fun. I hope that his ability to enjoy life has passed through me to my son.
(This post was last modified: 03-11-2021 09:59 PM by Owl 69/70/75.)
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