(11-26-2021 12:08 PM)Rice93 Wrote: I won't even try to understand how if a person has some Indian heritage as well as black heritage then calling them colored is OK. Not in the mood for that level of mental gymnastics on my day off.
I've missed a lot of this conversation and not going to look too hard at it catching up.... but I've often been troubled by the idea that 'a person of color' seems to be okay but 'colored' is not. To me, those mean the same exact thing... just one is harder/longer to say/ can sound awkward in a sentence. 'Wear a colored shirt' (meaning not a white shirt) vs 'wear a shirt of color' if the game thing is 'rainbow' or something.
To me, its much more about whether or not you intend to denigrate someone by your use of the word. While certainly a racist would intend malice if referring to a 'non-white' as 'colored', I'm struck by how often supposedly 'woke' people hear it as offensive.... and/or saying that 'white' is
superior.
To me, its a simple differentiation... a tool for describing someone to be picked out of a crowd. He's tall, short, skinny, blonde, red head, white, black or brown. These physical descriptors say nothing about the person's character, quality or intellect... and certainly nothing about their potential. Now if you asked if he were 'smart' and I responded with a comment about his skin tone, that would be something completely different.
The problem is, this has become a weapon to demonize others based on some version of mind-reading of intention.... of that someone's CHOICE to claim to be offended is somehow someone else's responsibility. I mean seriously... apparently we're supposed to have what must now be a 5 minute conversation about 'how someone prefers to be addressed' before we can ask simple questions... and then we're supposed to remember those things... for everyone. It's like trying to remember how each and every person we run across likes their burger prepared... or if they prefer a meatless or chicken option.... and again, if so... how prepared or with what condiments.
This to me is just one of those ideas where someone somewhere decides that we're going to ignore centuries of practice and of course an entire lifetime of habit and end the use of pronouns like he and she, replacing them with these new, made-up words like 'xi' and somehow, all the world's gender issues (or in this case, racial issues) are solved. And no, it's not even a start. It's a complete and utter deflection... INCREASING rather than decreasing these tensions.
If someone is generally offended by a word, I will make some effort to not use that word around them... or at all. What I'm not okay with though is where it is 'okay' to use those words, depending on MY race, gender preference or whatever. That's just the same sort of insult, just in reverse. In THIS case, the slight is absolutely intended... by definition.