(10-13-2014 03:42 PM)Owl 69/70/75 Wrote: (10-13-2014 03:11 PM)JMUDunk Wrote: I don't get why it has to be a choice at all. Why fiscal conservatism with conservative "values", necessarily have to be at odds with fiscal conservatives with more liberal social values.
I consider myself more in the former camp, while my very own spouse is decidedly in the second. We do okay with that.
Now, fiscal liberals with conservative values might grow a bit uneasy, but I don't find a lot of them out there anyway, least not that vote "R". And Lib- lib They've already got their home.
Actually I find a lot of fiscal liberals with conservative social values. I'd put GWB in that category based on the way he governed, although not on the way he campaigned. Actually, I'd put a lot of neocons there.
As for the two camps, the social conservatives who are fiscally conservative are unwilling to work with the social moderates/liberals who are fiscally conservative. I think it's pretty clearly the social conservatives who have closed that door. Glad you and your wife can get around that.
I guess we "get around that" by realizing that she has one set of firmly held beliefs, which as an adult I respect, while I have, in some instances, another.
Neither of us feel the need to hash it out daily, weekly or even much of ever. I'm not talking her into or out of anything, and nor is she, me.
So what's the point in bringing it up over and over, for either "side"?
This is what I don't get. Have your beliefs, live your life that way, lead by example so to speak. I'm not one to shy away from letting damn near anyone know where I stand on an issue or whatever subject, but I similarly feel no need to PROCLAIM it if not asked or it's not an appropriate time and place.
Social moderates don't scare me, they don't threaten me. I don't threaten them either, best I know, we just see things a little different here and there.
All that and I find it essentially pointless to try and
argue your way to changing someones mind. Must be done by gentle suasion over time. Love 'em to death IOW's.