(08-04-2013 02:34 AM)dmacfour Wrote: Maybe 50 years ago. What people consider dating these days is similar to playing minesweepers on the hardest difficulty.
Because we, as individuals, make it that way. It's not difficult to court someone instead of date them. In fact it's quite a bit easier on both parties.
Quote:Pressuring someone to get married is only going to add to the divorce statistic.
Based on what? Do you know what makes divorce go up.... The perception that a marriage is not vital. Nothing hurt marriage like no fault divorce.
Quote:One thing is for sure: people getting married before their brain fully develops (~25) or before they really get to know someone are just gambling.
Horse manure. People had been getting married younger than that for centuries! And plenty of people who get married *AFTER* that still end up divorced.
The ~25 meme is getting tiresome. It's an excuse and nothing more! people used to have their life started and on it's way by 25, now they are still acting like teenagers.
The idea that when you're 25 you finally "get it" (brain development or not) is idiotic and typically held by people are are 25. Those same people will swear when they are 35 the get it.
At 25 I was out of my house and working a full time professional job. I was half way across the country from where I grew up and doing fine. At 23 I look at that guy ans I want to slap him for being an idiot.
My 45 year old self will want to slap me. Life is a marathon and you *never* stop learning.
Quote:It may have been different before, but that's not youth culture anymore.
So *everyone* fits in culture or is there any kind of diversity? The people who get married at 18 and make do not do it on dumb luck or chance.
They do it because the work through those same problems that people who get married at 30 are going to work through. They do it because they understand marriage is not "dating 2.0".
Quote:I've been screwed over or found out things about what seemed like the nicest, down to earth girls.
Then you are not very observant and your loved ones did a poor job of advising you during the relationship.
Quote:Sometimes it happens years into a relationship. It's really unfortunate.
But not if you get married after 25 right.
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