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RE: Rush Limbaugh caller
(03-31-2013 12:31 AM)rice09 Wrote: (03-30-2013 09:12 PM)smn1256 Wrote: (03-30-2013 08:50 PM)jh Wrote: Straight people do have their own distinction. It's called straight.
and the term for a straight man/woman union would be? For centuries the term was marriage.
Look, gays came up with their own way of describing themselves and, as Paul and I have previously mentioned, Im sure at least one of them is intelligent enough to coin a new phrase.
If gays can call their unions marriage it might stress me enough to be suicidal and according to Tom I need to be accomodated at the expense and inconvenience of the entire population of the country.
I have to wonder if this is truly the outcome that defenders of the definition of marriage really want. Over time, society will just use the generic term that incorporates both heterosexual and homosexual unions because it will get too cumbersome to say 'married or [new term]ed' whenever you don't care which type of union it is (or you don't know the orientation of the person with whom you are speaking and do not want to make a social faux pas). My guess is that it would take under a decade for pretty much everything official to stop referencing 'spouses' and start asking about 'partners.' Eventually, I could see the word marriage falling into the same category as 'policeman' or 'fireman.'
Personally, I don't care, but I have not really seen much discussion on whether by defending the definition of marriage and holding it static, one isn't putting it at risk of becoming obsolete. For those that defend the current definition, is this an acceptable result, or do you have a reason to believe that people will still use the term marriage as often in the future as it is used today?
I think the term marriage would be more of a religious demarcation than a secular one. Some gays would be married, some would not. Some hetero would be married, some not. Like being baptized or "saved". "MARRIED" would mean what it originally meant... to be a couple in a union sanctified by whatever "god" you worship.
(03-31-2013 09:01 AM)jh Wrote: (03-31-2013 12:14 AM)Hambone10 Wrote: I think it does as well, jh.... but do we really want the government deciding that being married is "better" than just living together? Why do you have to be "married" to provide a good family home? What if two widows or widowers decide to live together to provide a better home for their families, but don't wish to be "married"... except that the government encourages them to do so?
Sorry, but the more I think about it, the more convinced I am. The fact that there are 1000 rights and responsibilities means nothing if they do not offer equal protection, and they don't. It may be a mess, but it is still "right".
I'm sympathetic to your thoughts, but if you thought those advocating for gay marriage are vilified for trying to destroy traditional marriage, just wait until the traditionalists hear you. Incorporating gay marriage is much more realistic than destroying civil marriage altogether.
I don't believe people of faith don't really put much stock in having the state classify them as "married". If their faith is that important to them, then they don't really care what the state calls them, so long as they are "legal" in the eyes of the state... sort of like Godparents. No legal standing, but an important religious one. If the state codified the rights and duties of a Godparent, wouldn't others want those same rights?
Quote:But also, I like the idea of spouses not being able to be forced to testify against each other. I don't think it's an equal protection problem that roommates can be. I like the idea that a child born to a married couple is presumed to belong to both and that doesn't work without a formal relationship (and it doesn't bother me that the presumption could involve Heather having two mommies). I like that property is presumed to transfer to the other upon death (you aren't an estate lawyer trying to drum up additional business are you? I kid, of course). I don't see an equal protection problem with these kinds of provisions. They take advantage of an existing relationship to simplify the orderly administration of the law and without the existing relationship would be incoherent.
When you get married, you file paperwork with the state that codifies all that you have mentioned. What difference does it make if we call it a marriage or a union? It's still different from a roommate. You don't see a difference in equal protection between allowing someone to choose to pass their assets to their 3rd wife whom they've known for 5 years tax free, or to the "family friend" or even sister or aunt who has taken care of the family for a generation?
Quote:I'm not sure I understand the issue with your widow example. If they want to live together but don't want to be married, I certainly don't think anyone should stop them (and I understand that's not what you are arguing). But then they forgo the rights and responsibilities that come with marriage. They have made that choice, and if they later change their minds they are free to choose differently.
But what if they can't? WHat i mean is, what if your relationship isn't based on sex and marriage and procreation whatsoever? WHy should you have to be willing to, or be assumed to, have sex with your "partner" in order to have them make life decisions for you or to share your assets or whatever? Why can't you just choose to have them be your "partner" in the "traditional" sense of the word, and enjoy the same tax treatment that partners who share a bed do?
Quote:Marriage is a creature of state law, a contractual relationship between two (for now Ninerfan1) people that includes certain rights and responsibilities. In many respects it's a form contract, with most of the provisions already filled in, but a contract nonetheless. It's one way people can choose to order their lives, but not the only way. I haven't thought this all the way through, but it's similar to incorporating a organization. There are a number of ways to organize a corporation and all come with a different suite of rights and responsibilities. There is no equal protection problem if you choose one form and don't get the benefits of a different form. Perhaps there should be additional forms of personal organization, something that would include your widows without forcing them to marry, but that doesn't require we get rid of civil marriage.
And I hope all y'all remember where you hid all the eggs (or if not, that the ones you forgot are all outside).
Marriage is a creature of religion, adopted by the state. Your point about choosing the means of incorporation is valid, but it ignores that there IS no civil rights protection clause for corporations. In the simplest sense... why is sexuality a matter for the government? If a gay man were "in the closet", should he have to "come out" in order to get equal treatment? Should he have to "marry" his partner to let him make decisions for him, or can he just decide to let them make decisions for him and file the paperwork like married couples do? Heck, what if it isn't sexual at all?
I'm admitting that my scenarios are the exception, just as gay marriage was the exception for 50 years, and still is... In another 50 years, who knows what society will have turned into... and what sort of "union" will be becoming more common and seek inclusion in this "special" treatment. It may well be polygamy or aliens or robots or clones or more likely, just people who watch out for each other and their families and share everything, just not a bed.
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