(12-21-2012 02:31 PM)Hambone10 Wrote: A parent with concerns about their child's mental health might lock them up better or get rid of them if they faced a $100,000 fine if he takes one to a school.
From what I read today, Ms. Lanza evidently kept her guns locked up.
$ 100,000? Most of the guys on this board make more than that in a year I'd wager, at least those who've been out of school awhile . . . . but that's probably 2 years work for the majority of Americans . . . two income households are averaging less than $ 100K.
So this kid who was bullied and wrongly took a gun to school this week, who was caught, and no one was hurt . . . . his parents give up 2 years salary (which happens to be 2 years of college education) when they didn't arm him, give him permission and the guns were taken without their knowledge . . . even if the guns were locked up?
I got hit by a car stolen by a 13-year old last month. Several grand in damage. He was way out of control in his driving, hit two cars (without really braking) drove up in a yard and hit a fence.
The stolen car was insured. Doesn't matter. I paid my (large) deductible and my insurance covered the rest. Other guys insurance doesn't pay . . . . kid didn't have permission to drive the car (it was stolen). Granted it wasn't the owner's son or relative . . .
Put another way, kid steals neighbor's gun . . . no penalty. Kid 'steals' parents gun, (and we're talking legal, registered gun since you'd have to be able to prove whose gun it was) and you bankrupt the family (and kid turns 18 with no debt).
I just don't see that (the $100,000 fine for a parent whose kid stole their gun) as a reasonable outcome. Frankly, I don't see the owner of a stolen car responsible either.
For perspective, the kid who damaged 3 cars was released to his mom. He was on probation already (possesion), but from what I can gather from my discussions with police, there is virtually no chance he will do jail time or juvenile time either.
His single mom looked pretty upset, was crying and yelling at the kid. I have no doubt he was talked to sternly later that night.
Look, the person who should've taken responsibility or should've been held responsible didn't and won't be. Sticking his mother, who was probably at work at the time, and probably has never stolen a car in her life, with a repair bill(s) for what might amount to 10% of her income for the year isn't going to make me feel better either.
I do a decent job raising my kids. Don't expect I'll ever get a call from a policeman to pull one of them out of a stolen car. But then again, my kids don't come home to an empty apartment in a bad neighborhood, with no one to drive them to any activities or help them with homework, because their parent physically and financially can't do the things I or my wife can. And even so, there is no guarantee that one of my kids won't mess up in some fashion, doing something they've been taught was wrong since they were 4.
At some point, it's the kids choice, not the parents. when it is reasonable to do so, we've got to hold the person responsible for the action . . . . responsible for their action.
And sometimes, although it isn't fair, there isn't a way to make it fair.