It DOES sound like it was handled VERY poorly by certain individuals.

I struggle a bit with certain other aspects because they seem to be systemic, and not merely to Rice, rather than specific... i.e. the fact that RUPD can't protect her off campus... which makes sense but sounds like the protective order was pretty limited, otherwise HPD could have helped... which isn't the fault of RUPD or Rice. In the grander scheme, it is difficult to keep someone from FEELING intimidated, and the law often requires proving INTENT (can't do anything until he does). As bad as it sounds, I don't have any problem with the counselors looking for self abuse... not as an alternative explanation to the alleged abuse that she suffered, but as a RESULT of the alleged abuse. I understand she may have felt differently about the "why", which imo shows that they didn't explain it to her very well or make her feel okay about it. That's a tough one for me... when you are genuinely concerned, you ask embarassing and sometimes accusatory things... like are you drinking more or hurting yourself, knowing that if you say no, that doesn't mean you aren't.... It's all coping mechanisms.

I wish the young lady, and the young man, for that matter, peace going forward... and hopefully we can use this failure to make things better