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I have a friend who will not talk to anyone for a week afterward if his team loses. He takes it harder than probably the team does. I will scream at the tv, hoping the players hear me or if I'm at the game, I will be silent hoping whomever I'm watching the game with won't see the true me, thinking that I am a lunatic or something, but everytime it's like a little piece of me dies. I might act like I'm over it but i truly never will be, like odu losing to uva in baseball region final last week. How about you?
About 2 minutes. Not worth my time, energy, and emotional bandwidth!
Depends on the loss.
(06-13-2021 12:56 PM)BePcr07 Wrote: [ -> ]About 2 minutes. Not worth my time, energy, and emotional bandwidth!
+1
I guess I'm too invested but I feel like, being a former athlete and coach it is still my way of being a part of it. I can't be the only one. I know there are fanatics out there. Tell your story. It's my school,my team. I know I'm not alone. LOL
What’s there to get over? It’s something I have no control over, losing is a guaranteed part of sports, and 50% of teams lose. My enjoyment isn’t tied to winning/losing.

I just move on to watching other games.
Wins and losses don't change my life even one little bit. They're games, and I'm just watching, not playing.
I get over all losses pretty quickly. Its just that some losses sting worse than others. I hate it when SU basketball loses to the likes of Georgetown, Uconn and Nova and Louisville (in that order). Especially if they have a coach or a player that irks me. Regarding football, I have grown a lot more accustomed to losing the last few years, but losing to Pitt, VT and and BC is almost unbearable for me. But I get over it pretty quickly.
(06-13-2021 02:46 PM)cuseroc Wrote: [ -> ]I get over all losses pretty quickly. Its just that some losses sting worse than others. I hate it when SU basketball loses to the likes of Georgetown, Uconn and Nova and Louisville (in that order). Especially if they have a coach or a player that irks me. Regarding football, I have grown a lot more accustomed to losing the last few years, but losing to Pitt, VT and and BC is almost unbearable for me. But I get over it pretty quickly.

Yeh,I agree some losses are worse than others
18 to 24 hours.

Usually about 3pm Sunday is when I let it go.
Until then, I boycott anything college football related. no college football news or message boards.
I tend to brood for a while. I might not watch football for a week or two.

Now if we end up getting a playoff where teams with 1 or 2 losses still have a title shot I’ll be more inclined to not view a loss as the end of the season’s national championship hopes.
Generally speaking ... very quickly (an hour to two max).

However, the Memphis loss to Kansas in the 2008 NCAA title game was a rough one to handle. I wanted that one for my father (who has been a Tiger fan since the early 1950s) and for the city of Memphis (my birthplace and a city that has had a lot of tough breaks, racial strife, etc., over the years). I felt a pit in my stomach for a few days after that brutal defeat.

I do think I would have been rather down had Memphis lost to Mississippi State in this most recent NIT finals. My father is now 90 and he was so excited for his Tigers. We may not have him much longer and it made me happy to see Pops so pleased.

I will be a bit dejected if Vanderbilt does not win the looming College World Series. Seeing the Tennessee Titans lose in the 2000 Super Bowl hurt. And the Nashville Predators losing in the Stanley Cup finals to the Pittsburgh Penguins stung.

But, again, and in general, I mentally move on quickly.
For me, it really depends on the significance of the game. As a K-State fan, I don't know that I'll ever get over these losses:

Football
'98 A&M
'12 Baylor

Basketball
'10 Butler
'18 Loyola Chicago (this one's a little easier as K-State never really was in the game but talk about missing opportunities)

Baseball
'13 Oregon St Game 3 (K-State baseball has never made a trip to Omaha) so close
Yeah, depends on the game. If it's The game, two sleeps, but there's an echo of the feeling brought back if a Michigan relative brings it up later. If it's the Golden Flashes losing to Alabama, I'm already over it before the game starts.
Not as long as it used to.

I will get irked during a game if it's not going our way, but it's no big deal in the end.

When my grandfather died a few years back, I started to look at certain things differently. Part of my reason for enjoying sports was growing up watching certain teams with him. He was a giant in my life and then there was a hole and I realized I put too much stock in things that didn't matter.

I still enjoy the games, but I'm not as emotionally tied to them as I once was. And I've found that games are best enjoyed with other people whether that's at the game or at a watch party.
(06-13-2021 12:00 PM)jaybird44 Wrote: [ -> ]I have a friend who will not talk to anyone for a week afterward if his team loses. He takes it harder than probably the team does. I will scream at the tv, hoping the players hear me or if I'm at the game, I will be silent hoping whomever I'm watching the game with won't see the true me, thinking that I am a lunatic or something, but everytime it's like a little piece of me dies. I might act like I'm over it but i truly never will be, like odu losing to uva in baseball region final last week. How about you?
It depends on how you lose and who you lose to.

If my team was beaten by one who outperformed us then immediately.

If my team simply blew it maybe 5 minutes.

If a crappy call by officials then after I've hashed it out with my buds.

If the victim of crooked officiating (numerous wrong and one sided calls in spite of evidence to the contrary) it lasts a long time, not daily, but it resurfaces every time we have to deal with that crew again. It happened in an Alabama game around the early 70's and in the last 5 minutes of the Auburn / Virginia final 4 game. Officials refused to examine a double dribble they missed in the last 30 seconds that would have sealed an Auburn win and then the touch call on the 3 point shot as time was expiring cost the game. It wasn't the foul call but the 2 calls together that cost the game. Sometimes to alter an outcome officials don't have to do anything until a couple of crucial and pivotal moments.

I saw it again today at the end of the Dallas Baptist baseball game and again UVa was the beneficiary.

Having worked games in my young life these things stick out. For years college ball was insulated to a degree from gambling influences. Not any more. I don't think there's much gambling over college baseball but network advertising can fluctuate if the wrong schools win, so money is still a factor and officials don't earn much per game.
By the time I get to the car, if not much sooner.
(06-13-2021 03:10 PM)goofus Wrote: [ -> ]18 to 24 hours.

Usually about 3pm Sunday is when I let it go.
Until then, I boycott anything college football related. no college football news or message boards.


For Rice fans, more like 18 to 24 YEARS. (Or MORE)
There’s a recent thread on our board on “what’s our worst (hardest to take) loss ever”… from the comments it’s clear that some still aren’t over games that got away from us way back in the 90’s.

And yes, poor (or corrupt) officiating played a part in a number of those. That definitely makes it harder to take.
I have been attending Memphis games since 1952 (I started early, lol). Diehard fan. I always yell a lot at games or in my man cave, but as soon as the horn goes off, I'm over it. I have never let the outcome of a game affect my mindset b/c I have no control over it.

Two exceptions. The 1957 NIT final (back when the NIT meant more) when we lost to Bradley by 1, and we were absolutely screwed by the refs, and the 2008 NCAA final to Kansas, where we blew a 9 point lead in the last 2 minutes or so. Both of those took a few hours to get over, but they are obviously still etched in my memory, just not to where it affects me.

I can't recall an agonizing football loss. I suppose the recent AAC games to UCF with something big on the line, but those weren't enough to register when they ended.
(06-13-2021 12:00 PM)jaybird44 Wrote: [ -> ]I have a friend who will not talk to anyone for a week afterward if his team loses. He takes it harder than probably the team does. I will scream at the tv, hoping the players hear me or if I'm at the game, I will be silent hoping whomever I'm watching the game with won't see the true me, thinking that I am a lunatic or something, but everytime it's like a little piece of me dies. I might act like I'm over it but i truly never will be, like odu losing to uva in baseball region final last week. How about you?

Depends on the nature of the loss. Some losses I am "over" even before they happen. E.g., as a LA Rams fan, this past season we fell behind the Dolphins 21-3 in the second quarter thanks to some big defensive TDs by the fins. I just said "aw shite", realized it wasn't our day, and wrote that game off then and there. Didn't bother me at all per se. On to San Francisco or whoever was up next.

On the other hand, as a Notre Dame supporter, I have never really gotten over their losses to Miami in 1989 and BC in 1993, even though those games are almost 28 and 32 years old respectively.

Also, the Rams 2002 loss to the Patriots in the SB still greatly bothers me. IMO we were easily the best team and deserved to win, whereas the much more recent 2018 loss has never bothered me, as I did not believe we belonged in that SB because a terrible call robbed the Saints of a win over us in the NFC title game.

So it just depends.
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