IF you were dating a woman and another female came over and they were hugging and kissing each other. Not french but kissing and dancing closely.
How would you feel about that?
Now if you talk to your GF after this and she says Oh if I'm gonna be with you I have to give up females as well as males??
How do you reply to this??
(NOTE this is not something I'm going through just saw something in a movie that made me think of this)
What if she then tells you that since it is a woman that you have nothing to worry about and that a woman just provides something that a man can't sometimes??
If you are not comfortable with the situation then you need to break up with her. Changing a person will only lead to a break up anyhow.
Bourgeois_Rage Wrote:If you are not comfortable with the situation then you need to break up with her. Changing a person will only lead to a break up anyhow.
This is not what I was looking for which is why I said it is not something I or anyone one I know is going through just saw a triped out movie on a simular topic and wanted to know what everyone here thought!
NavyDoc69 Wrote:IF you were dating a woman and another female came over and they were hugging and kissing each other. Not french but kissing and dancing closely.
How would you feel about that?
Now if you talk to your GF after this and she says Oh if I'm gonna be with you I have to give up females as well as males??
How do you reply to this??
(NOTE this is not something I'm going through just saw something in a movie that made me think of this)
What if she then tells you that since it is a woman that you have nothing to worry about and that a woman just provides something that a man can't sometimes??
I'd introduce her to my golf bag, my Grateful Dead bootleg collection and my lawyer. Each provides something that my significant other cannot, and it'll be hard to live without them. :D
Well I wasn't really giving advice. That's just what I thought. The situation is vague. You really can't provide the details needed to make a call on this over the internet. That's what I have that disclaimer "If you are not comfortable...". It makes a huge difference depending on how close of a relationship you are in and what you are looking for. My answer stands.
NavyDoc69 Wrote:Now if you talk to your GF after this and she says Oh if I'm gonna be with you I have to give up females as well as males??
How do you reply to this??
"wtf does that supposed to mean?" is what i'd ask before kickin her to the curb, then i'd go see a shrink coz of my inferiority complex that came about because of this .
NavyDoc69 Wrote:(NOTE this is not something I'm going through just saw something in a movie that made me think of this)
(in a mocking tone)sure its something you saw on a movie :laugh:
umm... why not invite the other girl home with you... :D j/k
of course if you're in a relationship like this, I don't think you'd like hearing what she said or seeing what she did... I would imagine I'd tell her that if she's with me, then she definately has to give up both guys and girls... Doesn't matter, you're still cheating in my opinion... If she's not willing to accept that then give her the boot, politely...
If it was serious I'd get a little hurt by the girl becoming a bit closer to the other woman. If it was just casual dating, I'd go home, light candles, turn on Melissa Ethridge and wait nekkid til they got home.
You have to decide what is important to you. If you have a problem with how she is acting, you need to decide if you can get past it. IF you cannot, you need to end the relationship. It would not be fair to you or her if you did not express your true thoughts.
I would say yes, of course it means you have to give up both males and females.
2 girls, one guy? Hell, three's ALWAYS company.
RebelKev Wrote:2 girls, one guy? Hell, three's ALWAYS company.
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It would be my last date with her. If the two females are more interested in each other than me, then three ain't company, three is a crowd that I need to get out of.
It depends on how long you had been dating and how comfortable you were with the situation.
I have a co-worker that swings and her husband has no problem with her seeing other people on the side...male or female. That's just the kind of relationship they have.
If I were in the man's situation and had been dating the girl a short time then I may just get rid of her completely, but if he had been dating her for a while then I would talk about it with her and let her know that I wasn't comfortable with the situation and then more or less give her an ultimatum.
georgia_tech_swagger Wrote:RebelKev Wrote:2 girls, one guy? Hell, three's ALWAYS company.
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:stupid: :stupid:
looks like an open door to a threesome; if your down with that, hit it.