Quote:Five Reasons to Do What You Say You Are Going to Do
1. Integrity
For me, doing what I say I will do is a matter of integrity. I wouldn’t feel good about myself if I didn’t keep my word. My word means something to me — I do not take it lightly. If your keeping your word doesn’t mean much to you, why is that?
2. Trust and Reliability
I do not trust people who don’t keep their word. If someone lets me down a number of times, then I know they are not reliable. I find that this limits my desire to spend time with them, which is sometimes sad, but I have learned to accept that I cannot trust them to follow through on what they say they are going to do. Friendships and deeply connected relationships thrive on trust.
Years ago I had a webmaster who consistently said he would get something done by a certain time and often didn’t. Of course, he is no longer my webmaster. While my current webmaster, who I adore, doesn’t always get things done right on time, I can feel that it is not due to resistance or a fear of being controlled. He is a man of honor and tries his best to do what he says he will do. His caring and sense of integrity make all the difference to me.
3. Respect
I lose respect for people whose word doesn’t mean anything to them. I end up feeling manipulated when someone says they are going to do something and then doesn’t do it. Of course, I give them leeway at the beginning. There may be a good reason they didn’t do what they said they were going to do. But if it happens over and over, I accept that I can’t rely on them and my respect for them goes down.
If you want to feel respected by others, then you need to say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no, and not allow your fear of rejection or your fear of being controlled to get in the way of being a trustworthy person.
4. Self-Worth
We cannot feel worthy when we let ourselves down by letting others down. People who renege on their word do not value themselves enough to act with integrity. Is resistance to being controlled really more important than your self-worth? Are you kidding yourself that you can feel inwardly worthy when you don’t keep your commitments? Self-worth is the result of treating ourselves and others with caring and respect.
5. Personal Power
Personal power is the result of behaving in ways we value. I remember, when I was a young woman, seeing the play A Man for All Seasons by Robert Bolt. This is the story of Sir Thomas Moore, who refused to endorse King Henry VIII’s desire to divorce his wife, Catherine of Aragon, because she could not bear him a son. He wanted to marry Anne Boleyn, the sister of his former mistress. I was so impressed by Moore, whose sense of principle was such that he chose to die rather than lose his integrity. He was a man of great personal power, greatly loved by his family and the people. I recognized that it was his personal power that gave him the strength to die rather than compromise his integrity in order to live. I understood that, in his eyes, his life would not be worth living if he were not true to himself.
Are you being true to yourself by keeping your word? If not, you might want to explore why.
Quote:Five Reasons to Do What You Say You Are Going to Do
1. Integrity
For me, doing what I say I will do is a matter of integrity. I wouldn’t feel good about myself if I didn’t keep my word. My word means something to me — I do not take it lightly. If your keeping your word doesn’t mean much to you, why is that?
2. Trust and Reliability
I do not trust people who don’t keep their word. If someone lets me down a number of times, then I know they are not reliable. I find that this limits my desire to spend time with them, which is sometimes sad, but I have learned to accept that I cannot trust them to follow through on what they say they are going to do. Friendships and deeply connected relationships thrive on trust.
Years ago I had a webmaster who consistently said he would get something done by a certain time and often didn’t. Of course, he is no longer my webmaster. While my current webmaster, who I adore, doesn’t always get things done right on time, I can feel that it is not due to resistance or a fear of being controlled. He is a man of honor and tries his best to do what he says he will do. His caring and sense of integrity make all the difference to me.
3. Respect
I lose respect for people whose word doesn’t mean anything to them. I end up feeling manipulated when someone says they are going to do something and then doesn’t do it. Of course, I give them leeway at the beginning. There may be a good reason they didn’t do what they said they were going to do. But if it happens over and over, I accept that I can’t rely on them and my respect for them goes down.
If you want to feel respected by others, then you need to say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no, and not allow your fear of rejection or your fear of being controlled to get in the way of being a trustworthy person.
4. Self-Worth
We cannot feel worthy when we let ourselves down by letting others down. People who renege on their word do not value themselves enough to act with integrity. Is resistance to being controlled really more important than your self-worth? Are you kidding yourself that you can feel inwardly worthy when you don’t keep your commitments? Self-worth is the result of treating ourselves and others with caring and respect.
5. Personal Power
Personal power is the result of behaving in ways we value. I remember, when I was a young woman, seeing the play A Man for All Seasons by Robert Bolt. This is the story of Sir Thomas Moore, who refused to endorse King Henry VIII’s desire to divorce his wife, Catherine of Aragon, because she could not bear him a son. He wanted to marry Anne Boleyn, the sister of his former mistress. I was so impressed by Moore, whose sense of principle was such that he chose to die rather than lose his integrity. He was a man of great personal power, greatly loved by his family and the people. I recognized that it was his personal power that gave him the strength to die rather than compromise his integrity in order to live. I understood that, in his eyes, his life would not be worth living if he were not true to himself.
Are you being true to yourself by keeping your word? If not, you might want to explore why.
Huffington Post? Gee I wonder who they meant that for.
(08-16-2017 12:40 PM)UTSAMarineVet09 Wrote: good words to live by
Indeed. Like my Grandaddy used to say "A man who dishonors his word is useless."
What would your Grandaddy say about Trump?
Serious question.
I'll answer your questions when you post the links you are supposed to have posted.
Nice Dodge.
Sounds like Grandaddy was a great man and you know full well what he would think of Trump and you can't say it because it is contrary to how you feel about him.
(08-16-2017 12:40 PM)UTSAMarineVet09 Wrote: good words to live by
Indeed. Like my Grandaddy used to say "A man who dishonors his word is useless."
What would your Grandaddy say about Trump?
Serious question.
I'll answer your questions when you post the links you are supposed to have posted.
Nice Dodge.
Sounds like Grandaddy was a great man and you know full well what he would think of Trump and you can't say it because it is contrary to how you feel about him.
I'll answer your questions when you post the links you are supposed to have posted.
(08-17-2017 06:56 AM)oliveandblue Wrote: A big part of keeping your word is learning what you can and cannot promise someone. Don't promise action if you're only 80% sure of it yourself.
(08-17-2017 06:56 AM)oliveandblue Wrote: A big part of keeping your word is learning what you can and cannot promise someone. Don't promise action if you're only 80% sure of it yourself.
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5 Reasons to Do What You Say You Will Do
