http://www.afropunk.com/profiles/blogs/d...-the-black

Quote:Let’s cut the crap—nothing is as simple as “We’re all ______.” It’s nice to be reminded that we’re all in this together, human solidarity and back solidarity are beautiful things. They're just not the only things. And when we don’t acknowledge the realities of the bad stuff, we let them fester and we leave others, the people we claim to be in solidarity with, more vulnerable.

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Light skin women like Beyonce and Halle Berry are considered to be two of the most beautiful women in the world. And while that thrills me as a black woman with a similar complexation, the universal acceptance of their beauty might just have something to do with their European facial features. It’s almost as if this makes them more agreeable to a wider range of people. On the inverse, we have people like the Kardashians who benefit from ambiguous complexations that allude to the 'exotic' and exploit the aesthetics of women of color. They do so with exponentially more success than actual black women because they’re white. They don’t need the perception of a proximity to whiteness—they are whiteness.

Light skin people have a responsibility to call out colorism and be honest about the privileges they benefit from. For example, I’ve never been racially profiled by the police. I’m afraid of the police. I've been pulled over by the police (I mean, I was speeding). But the police have not treated in vicious ways that I know and have seen them treat darker folks. I can walk into a lingerie store and find nude undies that are actually nude on me. Or go into a makeup store and find foundation in a shade that isn’t hidden from the display or “only available online”. I don’t have to experience what its like to feel totally invisible. And it’s my responsibility to say something, to do something, to prevent others from being treated that way. If I/we aren’t willing to do that, what’s the point of black solidarity in the first place?

LOL, you can post a meme on social media and says dark skinned black women are gorgeous, and everyone including white people will say that is right. Then 2 days later post a meme that says mixed, light skin, women are gorgeous and dark skinned blacks will drag you to hell.

I saw an article just this past week about skin color in Singapore. The writer was a female who was part Indian. Because her complexion was on the dark side, she admitted that she had trouble getting dates with native Singaporean men and Chinese men who favored pale almost milky complected women.

She mentioned Fan Bing Bing, whom I had never heard, of as the pinnacle in Chinese beauty.

Fan Bing Bing photo

Everybody has to complain about something.

(03-26-2017 07:48 AM)cb4029 Wrote:  most have to complain about something.

I'll agree with FIFY.....your avatar explains it all

TIL the type of man or woman someone is attracted to is malleable to culture and has nothing to do with pheromones or histocompatibility or anything like that.

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(03-26-2017 09:31 AM)Hood-rich Wrote:  

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That is exactly how see it. Trust me if you ever served in the military in a combat position, race ethnicity is the last thing to be concerned with.

Lupita Nyong'o is considered one of the most beautiful woman in the world and she's very dark skinned. She's absolutely stunning.

To the author of this op/ed: Maybe whoever spurned you causing you to pen this dreg to try and assuage your hurt feelings, just isn't in to you.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lupita_Nyong'o

(03-26-2017 10:14 AM)mptnstr@44 Wrote:  Lupita Nyong'o is considered one of the most beautiful woman in the world and she's very dark skinned. She's absolutely stunning.

To the author of this op/ed: Maybe whoever spurned you causing you to pen this dreg to try and assuage your hurt feelings, just isn't in to you.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lupita_Nyong'o

Not appealing to me at all, the Chinese chick posted above is attractive.

So #lightprivilege is now a thing too?

(03-27-2017 07:58 AM)Niner National Wrote:  So #lightprivilege is now a thing too?

(03-26-2017 07:48 AM)cb4029 Wrote:  Everybody has to complain about something.

I agree 10000%. Best to ignore said people as doing so makes life better. If some folks want to be constantly miserable then let them be miserable but by no means allow them to invite you into their self inflicted pity party.

(03-26-2017 07:18 AM)LeFlâneur Wrote:  I saw an article just this past week about skin color in Singapore. The writer was a female who was part Indian. Because her complexion was on the dark side, she admitted that she had trouble getting dates with native Singaporean men and Chinese men who favored pale almost milky complected women.

She mentioned Fan Bing Bing, whom I had never heard, of as the pinnacle in Chinese beauty.

Fan Bing Bing photo

My wife is Indian and darker than me. Her parents tried to "casually nudge" her to a boy from her high school (Trinidad). They knew the kid's family for a while and they seemed to get along great, but the family didn't want her with their son because she was darker.

Colorism is very common.

You'll see it in the Dominican Republic and all over Latin America as well.

(03-27-2017 07:58 AM)Niner National Wrote:  So #lightprivilege is now a thing too?

I'm screwed…sigh.


LOL

(03-26-2017 10:06 AM)SuperFlyBCat Wrote:  

(03-26-2017 09:31 AM)Hood-rich Wrote:  

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That is exactly how see it. Trust me if you ever served in the military in a combat position, race ethnicity is the last thing to be concerned with.

yep, everybody bleeds green.