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At U-M, Sexual Violence Includes 'Discounting Feelings,' 'Withholding Sex'
Withholding sex is now violent.
Quote:The redefinition of the word violence continues among revelations that discounting a sexual partner's feelings and withholding sex constitutes sexual violence at the University of Michigan. The relevant info can be found at the university's "Stop Abuse" webpage:
Examples of sexual violence include: discounting the partner's feelings regarding sex; criticizing the partner sexually; touching the partner sexually in inappropriate and uncomfortable ways; withholding sex and affection; always demanding sex; forcing partner to strip as a form of humiliation (maybe in front of children), to witness sexual acts, to participate in uncomfortable sex or sex after an episode of violence, to have sex with other people; and using objects and/or weapons to hurt during sex or threats to back up demands for sex.
Criticizing someone sexually and withholding sex are unkind things to do, but they aren't violent acts in and of themselves. Indeed, a university spokesperson could only defend the definitions as appropriate within "a larger context," according to Derek Draplin of The College Fix:
The definitions of behaviors of violence … describe most accurately what occurs in an abusive relationship,” [U-M spokesperson Rick Fitzgerald] said in an email. “Those behaviors not in the context of violence are not abusive. A reader of this site would recognize that it’s described as one behavior in the context of a pattern of behaviors to maintain power and control over an intimate partner."
But, as Draplin writes, universities make these slips all the time—treating disfavored behavior and physically painful behavior as one and the same. He cites an interview with the sexual violence support coordinator at Brock University in Canada in which the administrator claims "anything that makes someone feel unsafe" counts as violence.
Institutions of higher learning should be more precise with their definitions. Being insufficiently attentive to other people's feelings is not an act of violence.
http://reason.com/blog/2014/09/25/at-u-m...s-discount
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RE: At U-M, Sexual Violence Includes 'Discounting Feelings,' 'Withholding Sex'
Feminism is insanity. And that's not hyperbolic. It is truly insane.
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RE: At U-M, Sexual Violence Includes 'Discounting Feelings,' 'Withholding Sex'
Good gracious. And other universities are saying its sexual assault and/or rape if the girl doesn't say yes lol... She HAS to be asked. The more they try to "fix" things, the worse they break them.
It's like peeling the sheathing off of two wires to twist them together because you think its going to make your stereo system sound better, but the wire keeps breaking, so you keep peeling more back, and finally you get to a point where it not useful anymore and the whole system goes tits up when you should have never messed with the wires in the first place.
Liberals are real good at that.
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RE: At U-M, Sexual Violence Includes 'Discounting Feelings,' 'Withholding Sex'
(09-26-2014 03:54 PM)DrTorch Wrote: Feminism is insanity. And that's not hyperbolic. It is truly insane.
I agree 1000%.
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RE: At U-M, Sexual Violence Includes 'Discounting Feelings,' 'Withholding Sex'
Quote:discounting the partner's feelings regarding sex
Need not say more.
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RE: At U-M, Sexual Violence Includes 'Discounting Feelings,' 'Withholding Sex'
(09-26-2014 03:56 PM)LSU04_08 Wrote: Good gracious. And other universities are saying its sexual assault and/or rape if the girl doesn't say yes lol... She HAS to be asked. The more they try to "fix" things, the worse they break them.
It's like peeling the sheathing off of two wires to twist them together because you think its going to make your stereo system sound better, but the wire keeps breaking, so you keep peeling more back, and finally you get to a point where it not useful anymore and the whole system goes tits up when you should have never messed with the wires in the first place.
Liberals are real good at that.
I think it's funny how they keep coming around to the same system that's described in the Bible.
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RE: At U-M, Sexual Violence Includes 'Discounting Feelings,' 'Withholding Sex'
(09-26-2014 04:20 PM)DrTorch Wrote: (09-26-2014 03:56 PM)LSU04_08 Wrote: Good gracious. And other universities are saying its sexual assault and/or rape if the girl doesn't say yes lol... She HAS to be asked. The more they try to "fix" things, the worse they break them.
It's like peeling the sheathing off of two wires to twist them together because you think its going to make your stereo system sound better, but the wire keeps breaking, so you keep peeling more back, and finally you get to a point where it not useful anymore and the whole system goes tits up when you should have never messed with the wires in the first place.
Liberals are real good at that.
I think it's funny how they keep coming around to the same system that's described in the Bible.
While dismissing it as a fairy tale? Yeah me too.
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RE: At U-M, Sexual Violence Includes 'Discounting Feelings,' 'Withholding Sex'
Soon you'll need a lawyer before hitting the sheets.
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No Glove.. No Problem!!!!
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