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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:37 PM)smn1256 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:22 PM)Fitbud Wrote: You don't just up and ask someone if their gay. Seriously? You don't see anything wrong with that?
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Says you. I'm proud my kid doesn't have gaydar and has to ask.
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this lady & gents is the problem, right here.
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:26 PM)Cali_Cat Wrote: Haha!!! I thought the cry baby pu$$y cons always say "I don't care about your sexuality, why do you keep mentioning it?!?!?!" Yet your son seemed quite interested in knowing what her sexuality was...I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the dumba$$ tree. Valid and fair suspension...
While I disagree about the suspension, I have a hard time believing he would ask someone if they were straight.
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john01992
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:35 PM)smn1256 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:24 PM)john01992 Wrote: That perhaps is the most entertaining thread i've read in a long time.
I really would enjoy meeting you some day, it would be something you'd never forget and leave the marks to keep reminding you.
(09-02-2014 10:26 PM)Cali_Cat Wrote: Haha!!! I thought the cry baby pu$$y cons always say "I don't care about your sexuality, why do you keep mentioning it?!?!?!" Yet your son seemed quite interested in knowing what her sexuality was...I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the dumba$$ tree. Valid and fair suspension...
You, too.
Im not laughing your problem, i'm laughing at the fact that people you deal with in real life consider your LGBT attitudes unreasonable as well. I also laugh at the fact that smn in real life is just as crazy as his csnbbs personality and not just some message forum troll personality ==> but the real deal.
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 09:46 PM)smn1256 Wrote: What words would you have used?
"Hey, what's that on your arm?"
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09-02-2014 10:41 PM |
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john01992
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:41 PM)Doctor Krieger Wrote: (09-02-2014 09:46 PM)smn1256 Wrote: What words would you have used?
"Hey, what's that on your arm?"
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09-02-2014 10:42 PM |
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john01992
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:39 PM)gobluebigjon Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:26 PM)Cali_Cat Wrote: Haha!!! I thought the cry baby pu$$y cons always say "I don't care about your sexuality, why do you keep mentioning it?!?!?!" Yet your son seemed quite interested in knowing what her sexuality was...I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the dumba$$ tree. Valid and fair suspension...
While I disagree about the suspension, I have a hard time believing he would ask someone if they were straight.
Another solid point ^^^
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:43 PM)john01992 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:39 PM)gobluebigjon Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:26 PM)Cali_Cat Wrote: Haha!!! I thought the cry baby pu$$y cons always say "I don't care about your sexuality, why do you keep mentioning it?!?!?!" Yet your son seemed quite interested in knowing what her sexuality was...I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the dumba$$ tree. Valid and fair suspension...
While I disagree about the suspension, I have a hard time believing he would ask someone if they were straight.
Another solid point ^^^
What symbol does a straight person where to show the world he's straight?
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:42 PM)john01992 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:41 PM)Doctor Krieger Wrote: (09-02-2014 09:46 PM)smn1256 Wrote: What words would you have used?
"Hey, what's that on your arm?"
what?
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09-02-2014 10:44 PM |
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 09:30 PM)smn1256 Wrote: So this is my son's first year in this particular high school - he's a sophomore. Since school just started a few weeks ago he didn't really get to start making friends until just recently. Today he was with those friends and they were talking to some girls that my son didn't know and being shy he just stood by and let everyone else talk. One of the girls had a rub on gay rainbow on her arm and my son asked her if she was gay. During the entire time the kids were together the only words he spoke were "are you gay?" This was verified to my wife by the principal who spoke with all the kids involved.
After that question was asked the girl bolted and the next thing my son knows is he's in the principal's office being asked why he insulted the girl. My son asked him why he can't ask her about a rub-on tattoo that she clearly wanted other people to see. His insensitivity got him a two day suspension even after the principal acknowledged that all he said was "are you gay?" That's it! Period!
Livid, I called the school and got some bimbo who made me wait until she could gather all the details of what happened and she pretty much told me what I said above. I asked her how in the world is it wrong to ask a question about something someone clearly wanted other people to see? I then asked her if it was normal for high school girls to advertise their sexuality like that and if it was, then what's the purpose if it's against some policy to talk about what is clearly in plain view? She told me I was being unreasonable. I then asked her that, if the girl had worn a Dallas Cowboys shirt, would my son have been suspended if he asked her if she liked the Cowboys? She said that was not a rational comparison, told me she was running late, wished me a nice day and hung up.
So the lesson my son learned is if he sees anyone from the LGBTQ community he can't even approach them unless it's to bestow upon them accolades, esteem, and acknowledge that they have more rights than he does.
Edit: My wife told me there was something the principal said that made her think the girl wore the tattoo because it looked nice, not because she was gay. So she's a dumb ass and my kid pays for it. Tomorrow could be an ugly day for me and that school.
Hopefully he learned his lesson...don't get arrested tomorrow.
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09-02-2014 10:45 PM |
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:38 PM)john01992 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:30 PM)smn1256 Wrote: Mach, thanks for the advice but I kind of already know what you were telling me. I'm going to the school tomorrow which is my kid's final day of suspension, so I'm not expecting to gain anything here. The odd ball thing here is my wife just had an IEP last week where she gave the school psychologist reports showing my kid has a neurological problem where, on one hand, he has an extremely high IQ (127), but on the other he's 3 years lagging in maturity (he's 16 but has the maturity of a 13 year old) and he can't control his impulses, which is usually his mouth. But in this case he can't understand why he's being punished for asking a question about being gay when the person is wearing something that symbolizes being gay. If I can calm down a bit, I'm going to try to lay a guilt trip on the school and tell them that, by punishing my kid for something he just can't understand, they've set back the progress he's been making.
Mach, I have a bad taste in my mouth for schools. My kid was suspended once for telling 2 girls who were picking on him that he wished the Grimm Reaper would visit them in their dreams. He was 6 when he said that. When he was 9, and remember, at the time he had the maturity level of a 6 year old, the school 5150'd him - they had him arrested - because he told a room full of kids that they'd regret laughing at him after the teacher embarrassed him in front of all of them. My wife and I took that to the school board and raised hell. We got a lawyer and the district actually changed their rules on 5150's.
Most principals I've dealt with are on power trips, school boards, or at least the one I dealt with, was a bit more reasonable.
TBH, kids take attitudes that often reflect their parents attitudes. You never really could be classified as someone who is "politically correct" in your attitudes towards gays and the same could be said for how you refer to them on this forum.
That is politely my way of telling you that the problem isn't the school, the problem is you.
No. What I write on this board is not what I share with my kid. My kid didn't even know there were blacks, Hispanics, or Asians until he heard it in school. Until then, they were just people like him. He was taught they were different by California liberal teachers.
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09-02-2014 10:46 PM |
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john01992
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:44 PM)Doctor Krieger Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:42 PM)john01992 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:41 PM)Doctor Krieger Wrote: (09-02-2014 09:46 PM)smn1256 Wrote: What words would you have used?
"Hey, what's that on your arm?"
what?
I'm just floored by this sudden wave of LOGIC and a legitimate alternative response to finding out what that button was. Teach me DOC.....TEACH ME HOW YOU DO THAT!!!!
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09-02-2014 10:46 PM |
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:46 PM)john01992 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:44 PM)Doctor Krieger Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:42 PM)john01992 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:41 PM)Doctor Krieger Wrote: (09-02-2014 09:46 PM)smn1256 Wrote: What words would you have used?
"Hey, what's that on your arm?"
what?
I'm just floored by this sudden wave of LOGIC and a legitimate alternative response to finding out what that button was. Teach me DOC.....TEACH ME HOW YOU DO THAT!!!!
eh, I don't know. Just be more of a bada/ss like me I guess.
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09-02-2014 10:48 PM |
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john01992
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:46 PM)smn1256 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:38 PM)john01992 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:30 PM)smn1256 Wrote: Mach, thanks for the advice but I kind of already know what you were telling me. I'm going to the school tomorrow which is my kid's final day of suspension, so I'm not expecting to gain anything here. The odd ball thing here is my wife just had an IEP last week where she gave the school psychologist reports showing my kid has a neurological problem where, on one hand, he has an extremely high IQ (127), but on the other he's 3 years lagging in maturity (he's 16 but has the maturity of a 13 year old) and he can't control his impulses, which is usually his mouth. But in this case he can't understand why he's being punished for asking a question about being gay when the person is wearing something that symbolizes being gay. If I can calm down a bit, I'm going to try to lay a guilt trip on the school and tell them that, by punishing my kid for something he just can't understand, they've set back the progress he's been making.
Mach, I have a bad taste in my mouth for schools. My kid was suspended once for telling 2 girls who were picking on him that he wished the Grimm Reaper would visit them in their dreams. He was 6 when he said that. When he was 9, and remember, at the time he had the maturity level of a 6 year old, the school 5150'd him - they had him arrested - because he told a room full of kids that they'd regret laughing at him after the teacher embarrassed him in front of all of them. My wife and I took that to the school board and raised hell. We got a lawyer and the district actually changed their rules on 5150's.
Most principals I've dealt with are on power trips, school boards, or at least the one I dealt with, was a bit more reasonable.
TBH, kids take attitudes that often reflect their parents attitudes. You never really could be classified as someone who is "politically correct" in your attitudes towards gays and the same could be said for how you refer to them on this forum.
That is politely my way of telling you that the problem isn't the school, the problem is you.
No. What I write on this board is not what I share with my kid. My kid didn't even know there were blacks, Hispanics, or Asians until he heard it in school. Until then, they were just people like him. He was taught they were different by California liberal teachers.
Again, kids take in a lot more than what one would expect. It doesn't take much to figure out what a parents general attitude on a major topic is if you live with them.
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:41 PM)Doctor Krieger Wrote: (09-02-2014 09:46 PM)smn1256 Wrote: What words would you have used?
"Hey, what's that on your arm?"
So I should have raised my kid to be politically correct? To do that I'd first have to raise him to think there's something different or wrong about gays. I didn't. He doesn't know PC and in his mind the question was harmless.
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09-02-2014 10:49 PM |
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:49 PM)smn1256 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:41 PM)Doctor Krieger Wrote: (09-02-2014 09:46 PM)smn1256 Wrote: What words would you have used?
"Hey, what's that on your arm?"
So I should have raised my kid to be politically correct? To do that I'd first have to raise him to think there's something different or wrong about gays. I didn't. He doesn't know PC and in his mind the question was harmless.
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09-02-2014 10:50 PM |
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:43 PM)smn1256 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:43 PM)john01992 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:39 PM)gobluebigjon Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:26 PM)Cali_Cat Wrote: Haha!!! I thought the cry baby pu$$y cons always say "I don't care about your sexuality, why do you keep mentioning it?!?!?!" Yet your son seemed quite interested in knowing what her sexuality was...I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the dumba$$ tree. Valid and fair suspension...
While I disagree about the suspension, I have a hard time believing he would ask someone if they were straight.
Another solid point ^^^
What symbol does a straight person where to show the world he's straight?
I remember in school, many straight girls wore rainbow colors, or pins etc. They did so, b/c, wait for it......they liked rainbows (I mean they were teenage girls)
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:43 PM)smn1256 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:43 PM)john01992 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:39 PM)gobluebigjon Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:26 PM)Cali_Cat Wrote: Haha!!! I thought the cry baby pu$$y cons always say "I don't care about your sexuality, why do you keep mentioning it?!?!?!" Yet your son seemed quite interested in knowing what her sexuality was...I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the dumba$$ tree. Valid and fair suspension...
While I disagree about the suspension, I have a hard time believing he would ask someone if they were straight.
Another solid point ^^^
What symbol does a straight person where to show the world he's straight?
considering the demographic:
Justin Bieber shirts
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09-02-2014 10:51 PM |
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
Honestly, the world is changing. 20 years ago, nothing would've happened to your son. I can understand the suspension and your frustrations regarding it. 20 years ago, we used to beat the piss out of people just for being accused of being gay. In someways the world is changing for the better and worse regarding gay tolerance.
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09-02-2014 10:52 PM |
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
(09-02-2014 10:49 PM)smn1256 Wrote: (09-02-2014 10:41 PM)Doctor Krieger Wrote: (09-02-2014 09:46 PM)smn1256 Wrote: What words would you have used?
"Hey, what's that on your arm?"
So I should have raised my kid to be politically correct? To do that I'd first have to raise him to think there's something different or wrong about gays. I didn't. He doesn't know PC and in his mind the question was harmless.
You shouldn't have raised your kid to butt into other people's personal lives. What a swell extremist con you are smn.
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RE: My son asks girl "Are you gay?" and gets a 2 day suspension
Inappropriate? Maybe. Suspending offense? No way.
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