So, I've from Chicago and I go to the University of Memphis. I love it there...it's a great college...great people and not to mention a very special basketball team. I came to Memphis because I found out that their business school is ranked in the top 10 for best opportunity for minorities plus I wanted be apart of a great basketball team. I followed Memphis for a while, The Darius Washington era and those free throws he missed, I cried with them all though I wasnt even affiliated or had no connection to Memphis at all. So I decided to go to thee University of Memphis and I want to finish there too, I got two more years and I appreciate everybody in Memphis that took me in as their own, even if I am a Yankee. I love all you guys dearly...but now I have a "dilemna"..I recently just met this girl and she's awesome..my dream girl...we have the potential of going very far in a relationship and I think she is the one...I cant explain..but it's amaaaazzziiiing...but she goes to Illinois State University and I'm thinking about transfering out of pure faith that everything will workout between me and her and she is certain it will, but you never know, everything might collapse and then I'll be really doomed. ISU does have a great business school, close to home and is developing into a very good university in illinois...but I love Memphis with all my heart and it would hurt my heart if I transferred..but at the same time..i've been waiting soooo long for a girl like this..it's a one in a life time opportunity and maybe we can do the long distance relationship but even that is "iffy". I NEED your help MEMPHIS...what should I do?

thanks,
Love all you guys

OMG . . . . . do not transfer. You "recently" met this girl. If she is amazing enough to keep your interest for the next 30-40 years, surely you can keep each other's interest through a few semesters.

Pardon the brash tone of this response, but THINK WITH THE PROPER HEAD...

Go with your heart remembering that sometimes they get broken.
On the other hand, could you live with yourself if you didn't try.
You will have to decide this.
Good luck.
Go Tigers!

get her to transfer here. You have to be the string and make the cat(your girlfriend) work to get you.

tennis2k4 Wrote:get her to transfer here. You have to be the string and make the cat(your girlfriend) work to get you.

haha...good advice. I like that idea.

"I recently just met this girl"

You know the answer.

TiggerFan Wrote:"I recently just met this girl"

You know the answer.

just to clear up "recent"..around 3 and a half months ago.

thanks guys.

Stay at Memphis, dude..

Just like Tigerlicious said, you gotta think with your head on this one.

If you and her are meant to be, then tough it out for a few semesters. She'll be waiting on you.

If you transfer and y'all weren't meant to be, then you're stuck at a school where you didn't really want to be in the first place.

I met the "girl of my dreams" many times when I was your age, before meeting the "real" one many years later. Stay in Memphis dude.

kpigout Wrote:I met the "girl of my dreams" many times when I was your age, before meeting the "real" one many years later. Stay in Memphis dude.

Yes, If I'd married my first "love", I would be in a women's prison in New Jersey (he moved back north after college). Sooner or later, I'd have been forced to place a pillow over his head until he stopped squirming.

Many folks find that they change a whole lot in their early twenties . . . what makes a perfect match at 23 or 24, doesn't always make a perfect match once careers are underway and you are 27 or 28.

Don't mean to talk down to you, Mr. Needing Advice. At your age, I'd have thought any 40 yo woman giving me this advice was simply too mired in her own midlife mediocrity to understand how truly different and special my situation was. . . . But I do hope you'll ponder the responses of the older married folks here.

Two years is NOTHING . . . a mere flink of the eye . . . .over the course of what you are proposing with this girl. If it is meant to be, a delay will do nothing more than allow you to finish what you've already started in business school here. I don't think you really know a person until you've been with them a full four seasons . . .think of it this way . . most employers would only just now be even taking a new hire off of probationary status after 3 months. Heck, I think I had hangovers that lasted longer in college . . . . .LOL!

I guess I am just too old but I really don't remember any of my friends transferring to another school because they met a girl. Frankly there are a ton a really cool girls in Memphis. Have you not been dating the local girls?

What are you Majoring in? "Meet the girl of my dreams"? Or getting an "MBA"? Just get your education and the rest of your life will unfold. I can give you numerous times I "missed" getting with "the girl of my dreams" before I met and ultimately married the girl of my dreams. We have been together now for 22 years. I would not advise transferring, you sound a little desperate and you should have more definite individual goals than chasing a girl. A young man like yourself should be "having fun". If you and her are meant to be together it will happen without you making such a drastic change.

BTW, how did you meet this young lady and what's so special about her which would make you consider this?

Pray on it.

Never, Ever chase after a woman. Let them chase after you. When I met my wife she was living in Georgia and I lived here in the Memphis area. Long distance relationships are tough, but they can work. She eventually moved out here and we got married. Finish up school, if she is the one it will work out. Remember, you got spring breaks/school holidays to meet up and get freaky.

You're what 20 years old? Are you really gonna listen to anyone's advice?

I was asked this when I was 20 and realized that my answer was, "sure if it confirms what I want to do." Good Luck in whatever you decide.

Tigerlicious Wrote:

kpigout Wrote:I met the "girl of my dreams" many times when I was your age, before meeting the "real" one many years later. Stay in Memphis dude.

Yes, If I'd married my first "love", I would be in a women's prison in New Jersey (he moved back north after college). Sooner or later, I'd have been forced to place a pillow over his head until he stopped squirming.

Many folks find that they change a whole lot in their early twenties . . . what makes a perfect match at 23 or 24, doesn't always make a perfect match once careers are underway and you are 27 or 28.

Don't mean to talk down to you, Mr. Needing Advice. At your age, I'd have thought any 40 yo woman giving me this advice was simply too mired in her own midlife mediocrity to understand how truly different and special my situation was. . . . But I do hope you'll ponder the responses of the older married folks here.

Two years is NOTHING . . . a mere flink of the eye . . . .over the course of what you are proposing with this girl. If it is meant to be, a delay will do nothing more than allow you to finish what you've already started in business school here. I don't think you really know a person until you've been with them a full four seasons . . .think of it this way . . most employers would only just now be even taking a new hire off of probationary status after 3 months. Heck, I think I had hangovers that lasted longer in college . . . . .LOL!

What's a flink?

TigerBlue4Ever Wrote:

Tigerlicious Wrote:

kpigout Wrote:I met the "girl of my dreams" many times when I was your age, before meeting the "real" one many years later. Stay in Memphis dude.

Yes, If I'd married my first "love", I would be in a women's prison in New Jersey (he moved back north after college). Sooner or later, I'd have been forced to place a pillow over his head until he stopped squirming.

Many folks find that they change a whole lot in their early twenties . . . what makes a perfect match at 23 or 24, doesn't always make a perfect match once careers are underway and you are 27 or 28.

Don't mean to talk down to you, Mr. Needing Advice. At your age, I'd have thought any 40 yo woman giving me this advice was simply too mired in her own midlife mediocrity to understand how truly different and special my situation was. . . . But I do hope you'll ponder the responses of the older married folks here.

Two years is NOTHING . . . a mere flink of the eye . . . .over the course of what you are proposing with this girl. If it is meant to be, a delay will do nothing more than allow you to finish what you've already started in business school here. I don't think you really know a person until you've been with them a full four seasons . . .think of it this way . . most employers would only just now be even taking a new hire off of probationary status after 3 months. Heck, I think I had hangovers that lasted longer in college . . . . .LOL!

What's a flink?

Your choice:

1) typo
2) snigglet for f*ing blink

Considering that it was from "the licious", I'm going with the snigglet.

Once again, Listen to your heart.
If you make a mistake, learn from it.
Thats what makes you grown up.
Frankly, I think you need to make up your own mind and if you can't, there is your answer.
Best of luck whatever you choose.
Go Tigers!

I am not trying to belittle your post, but if you have to ask for advice on a message board then you do NOT need to transfer.

IF she is the right one, a couple of years apart will not hurt.

Of course, I have been married and divorced 3 times so take my advice with a grain of salt.

Good luck with the decision.

Definitely don't transfer. They aren't ever who you think they are. They will be great for a while until they feel like they have you, then the crazy feathers start coming out.

Stay at Memphis, and if it's still going well after a few semesters--then give it some more thought.